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I wonder when I’ll stop calling everything my Mom’s?

She’s been dead over two years. Everything is in my name. But I still feel like it’s hers. She built all this, but never got to complete it. The man she married left it in dire need of every possible repair before he dumped it and ran. Now here I am trying to fix and finish all the beauty she created. It just doesn’t feel like mine because I still feel her with me.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
Everything that she had that makes you think of her is the reason why. It’s still hers in a way but you inherited it so now you share it with her.
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@cherokeepatti Oh I love that 🖤 We share it 🖤
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@RebelFox What if every time we thought good thoughts about someone we love and has passed gets sent onto them. I have had that feeling for the longest time. And when we reunite they will keep those feelings in their hearts till we meet again.
Carissimi · F
I am sorry for your loss. Two-years is not a long time after bereavement. Just accept how you feel, and as time goes by ... maybe a few more years ... you will feel like they are yours, but it doesn’t matter if that doesn’t happen. Those items are a loving association with your mom.
Carissimi · F
I liked what Patti said too. She’s right, you are sharing.

Two-years is not long at all. At two-years post my late husband’s death I was still crying in the grocery store when I would see one of his favorite items. The grief would wash over me like a wave, and I would have to leave the store without my shopping, so I could go cry in my car.

Everyone is different, but it can take a very long time (it took 7-years after my fiancé was murdered, when I was younger) to feel almost normal again, but you never forget them. @RebelFox
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@Carissimi Oh sweet lady you have experienced a lot of grief. I’m sorry and I appreciate you sharing with me. That sounds very raw, and cheers to your heart. It selfishly helps to hear about your experience because it takes those hard jabs in life to understand another’s hard jabs. And all I’ve really wanted was to not feel so alone with this intensity of grief that seems to frighten people. And you can carry on, it’s just the nature of your story that is hard to hear. I hear you and thank you for hearing me 🖤
Carissimi · F
I wish you comfort and love. @RebelFox
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
I feel the same way about my parents stuff even though they’ve been gone 10 years. It’s the holding on to the idea that it’s theirs that keeps them with you but you have to find another way to hold them in your heart and recognize that these things are now yours. It’s very hard. I can barely do it now but I am slowly realizing that these things are mine now.
cycleman · 61-69, M
You have a treasure place. Your Mom's!
Take your time, show your love and appreciations here and there and in spots place your ownself within your home. You are going to be learning more about yourself, your Mom, and life all together.

You so appear to be a very special lady.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
I still refer to the tools etc I inherited from my Dad as "Dad's tools". That was 1984.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
You wont. Mine has been gone 20 and I still do it.
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