anybody have any tips dealing with an unmotivated younger sibling?

I have been trying to get my brother to stop being lazy. This guy is so educated but is underemployed. He got two bachelors but is working part time at some shitty job he always complains about. I told him you can be an online teacher with your degrees and he gets mad at me. All he does is play videogames and have no plans for the future. I tried to get him to invest his money to get different forms of income and dude just yells at me or hangs up the phone. Even tried to get him to start a YouTube channel then gets pissed off at me when his ten videos don't get much views. He's still living at my parents home at 26. Honestly i blame my parents. They spoiled him too much. Everything they did wrong with me, they tried making it up with him. Probably the best thing that happened to me was getting kicked out at a young age because my brother is just a mess. I'm worried because my parents aren't going to live forever.

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Reject · 31-35, M

My sister is like that. My solution was to disown her. Now I don’t even have a sister. Haven’t seen her in many years and haven’t spoken to her since I was in middle school. I know she found subsidized housing and lives on welfare disability even though she has none. She just made some mental illness up. Maybe your brother could do the same. It’s not too hard to convince people you’re disabled now. This way he’ll always be provided for by the government even if your family can’t tend to him anymore.

empanadas · 31-35, M

@Reject yeah he was talking about that. Apparently he wants to have 5 kids all in some public housing apartment. It's annoying because my parents worked so hard for him to get an education but he just wants to be a lazy fuck.

Reject · 31-35, M

@empanadas It’s tough because you can’t force your child to do anything. They have to find their strength on their own at some point. You provide as their parent and hopefully you can guide them, but ultimately if they don’t care, then they don’t care.