Mum & Daughter Struggles

Me and my mum are constantly speaking different languages.. We can never have a proper conversation without one of us getting worked up and arguing. It’s like she doesn’t respect that I have an opinion all because of the fact that she considers herself an open minded thinker. She disregards anything I have to say and gaslights me by saying “no, you can’t answer back to me.” or “show some respect and don’t talk back”. ITS SO INFURIATING BECAUSE SHES THE ONE WHO GETS ME WORKED UP IN THE FIRST PLACE AND THEN AS SOON AS I FINALLY BITE BACK AND STAND UP FOR MYSELF SHE THEN PROCEEDS TO TRY AND MAKE ME SHUT UP. It’s so mentally draining and it makes my skin crawl because I feel like I can never say how I feel because I get told to shut up. Smh. I don’t know what else to do?

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ninjavu · 51-55, M

Sounds familiar.

"... she considers herself an open minded thinker." Some of the most open-minded people I have known are actually the most closed-minded, but they think that because they're open-minded on a particular topic, they're god's gift to open-mindedness. I've encountered this mostly in the swinger lifestyle.

"'no, you can’t answer back to me.' or 'show some respect and don’t talk back'". Sounds like my father. Because he blew his load in my mother, that automatically means that I am to respect him for all eternity. 🤷‍♂️

I'm sorry you're having this problem, but you're not alone. 🤗