I run to here when I am sad/conflicted/drunk.

today, sad.

My 22 year old niece said she blows marijuana smoke in her 4 year old daughters face to "calm her down".

My friend-ish said she blows smoke in her pitbulls face to calm her down.

what are your thoughts?

EDIT:

The interesting part about calling CPS is..... the child would then go into foster care....ask any foster kid there is, and they would say it is horrendous. The kids with my niece (besides the smoke) are well fed and taken care of. They are really smart for their ages, too. I don't see any mental issues in them at all. Not even behavioral issues. They do all the "pleases" and "thank yous".

EDIT 2:

Is anyone on here brave enough to say they do it too? I know it is not as rare as it sounds. PM me? Everyone deserves a voice.

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DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F Best Comment

If cps were to get called and the child tested positive she would immediately go into foster care to potentially get raped, neglected and abused.

You don’t call cps on family. If you had an issue you should have stated it right then and then and told her that was morally wrong and abusive. And even go as far as to explain to her that the child could get taken away if the state found out she was doing that. If she wasn’t receptive you should reach out to more surrounding family members (especially the grandparent) and express your concern

justanothername · 51-55, M

@DeluxedEdition Correct.

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justanothername · 51-55, M

@DeluxedEdition Usually because they are concerned about the way you are raising your kids. Is your niece a regular weed smoker?

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@DeluxedEdition I would never ever call CPS on family. I would take the child into my care, first. This is just about discussions and opinions. I haven't seen my niece in 10 years. Just met her children this weekend. I just now found out about what she does because she is very very open. and yes she is an avid weed smoker. she had a few ounces on her when I saw her.

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

@HellsBelle I don’t mean to come off judgmental to you because she is wrong for what she is doing fr. It’s not unreasonable to be upset and want to do something to protect the children.

[quote] she had a few ounces on her when I saw her.[/quote]
She’s not making good choices 🤦‍♀️@HellsBelle

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@DeluxedEdition I agree.

Carazaa · F

@DeluxedEdition @HellsBelle Usually kids are not taken if parents agree to immediately take parenting and therapy, and NA classes. Usually when a child is taken, they go to a relative for a few months until parents are in treatment and doing good. Childrens services usually help parents become better parents.

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

@Carazaa a child testing positive for any substance is grounds for immediate removal

The parent can prove to the court that they are fit by attending classes AFTER the child is removed from their custody

Carazaa · F

@DeluxedEdition It could be the case where you are but it depends on the childs age, the social worker, and the department procedures. There are some cities that are very effective and there are those that aren't.

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

@Carazaa okay, and what’s your point?

You think it’s more justified to call cps and have them potentially take your child away. Potentially put them in a position to be raped, starved and neglected by strangers who often become foster parents solely to get government checks because they “might not take them away” because you were too scared to speak up to the mother about her parenting that you disagree with?

Carazaa · F

@DeluxedEdition My point? I was just responding to your statement that cps would immediately put them in foster care. They might or they might not, it depends on the particular city and department.