I run to here when I am sad/conflicted/drunk.

today, sad.

My 22 year old niece said she blows marijuana smoke in her 4 year old daughters face to "calm her down".

My friend-ish said she blows smoke in her pitbulls face to calm her down.

what are your thoughts?

EDIT:

The interesting part about calling CPS is..... the child would then go into foster care....ask any foster kid there is, and they would say it is horrendous. The kids with my niece (besides the smoke) are well fed and taken care of. They are really smart for their ages, too. I don't see any mental issues in them at all. Not even behavioral issues. They do all the "pleases" and "thank yous".

EDIT 2:

Is anyone on here brave enough to say they do it too? I know it is not as rare as it sounds. PM me? Everyone deserves a voice.

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justanothername · 51-55, M

Definitely not an ideal way to calm a 4 year old daughter down. Her mom needs to ask her daughter what’s making her irritated.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@justanothername she is just not that type of parent.

justanothername · 51-55, M

@HellsBelle That’s not an ideal situation. All kids get angry and hyper and frustrated at some point. The aim of a parent is to talk to their child and find out what is causing the behavior.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@justanothername I agree. I could tell her all day but the mom won't change her personality

justanothername · 51-55, M

@HellsBelle Sometimes they just have to learn the hard way. Either way they will still blame you when it goes wrong and you will feel like shit.

HellsBelle · 31-35, F

@justanothername I am just glad her kids seem so well off. very smart and polite, despite their mother. Im going to try and see them more often so they can see a different adult in their life.