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Whatever happened to no means no 😭😭😭😭

I think a disobedient phase has started 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳

Kiddo asked to go to the beach this evening. I said no because we have a lot of things to do and I know a beach trip is never under an hour. I don’t have an hour to spare πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜

She didn’t argue and I carried on making dinner. Then I see her from the window walking off towards the beach with her bucket and spade 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

Help πŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒπŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­
4meAndyou Β· F
Your little sister is eight, right? She is old enough to obey you when you tell her no. You have to get a bit angry with her. You have to tell her two or three or four REALLY bad things that could happen to her if she runs off to the beach, (or anywhere), without you.
Raffiki Β· F
@4meAndyou I let her know I was not happy with her. She seems to think I’m SO dramatic when I tell her things that could go wrong. I told her she could go in the ocean and drown, she rolled her eyes and said β€œYou know I [i]can[/i] swim.” πŸ˜³πŸ˜³πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

Part of the issue is she thinks our new town is super safe and there is no danger at all.
Mamapolo2016 Β· 70-79, F
@Raffiki Very good swimmers - very good - drown too.

Not too long ago a young man who was hoping to qualify for the Navy SEALS drowned.
ineedadrink Β· 51-55, M
You are correct about "no" meaning no. She, being a kid, will sometimes push to see how far she can bend your will. Not necessarily yelling but firm words are called for, especially when safety is an issue.
Mamapolo2016 Β· 70-79, F
Communicating with kids is tricky. They tend to be literal. It's plausible she asked to go to the beach and you said, "I don't have time to go to the beach."

Well, she DID have time and you didn't actually say no.

I remember saying to my daughter, "Don't make me tell you again!" and her answer, "I didn't make you tell me the first time."
Raffiki Β· F
@Mamapolo2016 I see what you mean, but she was very aware of what I meant πŸ˜‚ I said the initial no, then told her why we couldn’t go, then told her we could go tomorrow instead. I even made a suggestion for how else she could have fun where I could watch her. She just isn’t interested in listening to me πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­

I do love your daughter’s response πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
Mamapolo2016 Β· 70-79, F
@Raffiki I'm sure you've had the stranger danger talk.

This is important, as you clearly know.

My daughter was six - long past the terrible two's - when she started throwing tantrums.

I sat her down and informed her that henceforth, when she threw a tantrum, not only would she not get whatever the tantrum was about, she would not get the NEXT thing she asked for, either.

It took about a week before she sat ME down and said, "This tantrum thing isn't working out the way I thought." And tantrum season was over.

From what I understand, your daughter hasn't been parented much before you. It'll take some time. Patience. Love. Good sense. Consistency.

I think you have all those things in abundance.
@Mamapolo2016 BEST COMMENT. Here, πŸ†.
Make a beach πŸ– at home and turn her around. That's not a good thing she did, scary if she got too far.
vetguy1991 Β· 51-55, M
She's challenging you
Jenny1234 Β· 51-55, F
She should face some kind of consequence for that like no beach for a week.
Jenny1234 Β· 51-55, F
@Raffiki that’s part of parenting though.
Raffiki Β· F
@Jenny1234 Oh she’s having consequences, just not specifically that.
Jenny1234 Β· 51-55, F
@Raffiki I didn’t say specifically it should be that one that’s why I wrote Β«liké» as a suggestion
Kid: Can we go to the beach?
Mom: We have beach at home.
Kid: *Walks outside to the beach*
Raffiki Β· F
@canusernamebemyusername Seriously… having a beach so close was great up until now πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜… If she’s just going to try walk herself over there without telling me. Man I’m screwed πŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒπŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜―πŸ˜―πŸ˜―
No obviously means Yes to her.
Accompany her next time, coz childhood comes just once.
Mamapolo2016 Β· 70-79, F
Here. Show this to Little Miss Know-it-all!

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Minxxy8o Β· 41-45, F
Aaaaaaaaaah...the joys of parenthood😁

 
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