I'm tired. So tired of listening to my mother go over and over and over about

The same toxic things. I'm so tired. So so so tired. I was born listening to them. Grew up listening to them. The same old problems with the same old people. I'm so tired. Nothing has changed over these 30 years. How can u wake up to talk about the exact same thing, and obsessively go on about it throughout the entire day, then go to sleep talking about it too?? I've never heard a normal conversation at home or a conversation that is not about these problems and these people. It's so tiring. It makes me feel frustrated and static. Even if other areas of my life are moving. But one spent at home with my folks is not productive. I lose brain cells.

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anythingoes477 · M

There's a solution to your life problems.......................move out. Bingo...problem solved.

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MamaButterfly · F

@anythingoes477 Yes it is because you don't have others in your face telling you that you have to do this or that. Self reliance and self sufficiency is so lacking in this country because if one goes against it, you are almost banished from society and family and friends, but when you stand alone at least you take with you inner peace and the values that you find sacred without having to give an explanation of why.

assemblingaknob · 31-35, F

@anythingoes477 sorry. Not possible for me. Cultural difference. You can't move out. Plus living in a 3rd world country means very high rents and not enough income. Let's say I belonged to the very liberal upper class, I could move out I guess, but I could still not afford living on my own. Then commute to and from work, a significant amount of my income would go to that. I wouldn't still be able to feed myself. It's all seriously fucked. I've thought about moving out, calculated, made plans, but it's literally impossible and extremely taboo.

assemblingaknob · 31-35, F

@anythingoes477 Also, I'm saving up to leave this country altogether (there's an option at my workplace where I can continue to work in the same field after a few years in another country) so let's say even if my income was enough to get me by on my own, I still wouldn't be able to save for the visa, exam fees, tickets and my stay in the new country.

HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M

That's why I like being at work more than I like being at home. I don't like dealing with any of the shit that goes on in my house. I have siblings that live here for free when they're full grown adults and fully capable of getting off their ass and finding a job. But fuck it. I don't care. My parents want to raise a lazy piece of shit then that's fine. I'll keep working and making money and saving. One day I'll actually have enough to build my own life

assemblingaknob · 31-35, F

@HannibalMontanimal same. My finances don't allow me to do anything dramatic like storming out and cutting ties.

HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M

@assemblingaknob Definitely feel that. I'll keep putting up with it till I can have money for my own place. I still pay to live here and help everyone out and still manage to save lots of money. Might take a few more years though till I can actually move out.

being · 36-40, F

I remember you... building a door, haven't you finished with the building..
Perhaps sounds like the time to cross over is coming 🤗 the good news, seen from outside, is that you're fed up with the misery of life....the action that you will take can only be your choice... either you remove yourself from the people, or you change your attitude that much that they can't influence you. The first usually is more successful when it comes to chronic situations, but only you know your conditions and powers. I wish you all the best