TW drugs overdose suicide attempt abusive relationship

For starters , I am not looking for a friend or romantic interest in anyway, I ask kindly that you do not message me with that in mind. I have nobody, and I am so scared and sad and just want to talk about this.I just turned 19, My almost 21 year old sister is homeless. She was kicked out by my mom nearly 3 years ago after years of them fighting and my sisters drug/alcohol abuse. She moves around places, sometimes living with her friend for months or her abusive 47 year old mans bf. The last 6 months she came to me with nowhere to go. I was terrified and didn't know what to do, my mom wouldn't let her back in and offered me no support at all. I was alone. I am alone. I started staying up all night bringing her hot water bottles blankets food water, things like that. Most of the time she was passed out and that always stressed me out. I worried of an overdose. Recently my biggest fear came to life, I walked outside and saw her in a weird position. I walked over thinking it was just her usual state, and that when I tapped her she would immediately awaken like always. But she didn't. I picked her limp body up and her eyes were open and completely white, the colored part was rolled into the back of her head and blood was coming out of her nose. Her face was colorless and pale as an actual corpse. I couldn't move for a moment I just stood there tapping on her face calling her name, when she didn't respond I ran into the trailer and screamed at my mom to call an ambulance. I ran back, checked her beathing and pulse, both were slow and abnormal. I was prepared to do CPR but the ambulance got here before I needed to. The police came first and were immediately judging me. "Why don't you let her in, why are you letting her sleep out here?" My sister woke up and I told police that she was having a seizure and overdosing. She was restrained by 12 cops and forced to go to the hospital, all while she screamed loudly "YOU CAN'T ARREST ME NO" and also screaming my name. I told her she wasn't being arrested and so did the cops but she was disoriented and still thought otherwise. After a short trip to the hospital she was given narcan and almost immediately released back to my house. I stayed up all night scared checking on her. She recently she went back to her abusers house. I told her to message me and she wasn't so i went to his house and they answered the door together. If she didnt go on her on free will this would look like a hostage situation. he is drunk right now. i'm scared and idk what to do. If i call police i have no proof of violence and they wont do anything , i risk making her abuser more angry. If I hurt him I go to jail and that changes nothing. People keep telling me im not doing enough and that i need to be helping her, how ? how do i help? She has BPD , depression, shes suicidal and the night she overdosed was trying to kill herself. WHAT DO I DO ? WHAT DO I DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO,. My mom dont care about her or me , i have noone. People keep telling me to call cops, you dont think i want to? They dont do shit i have been in this situation countless times. Domestic abuse hotline? they dont help. Nobody will help until shes dead , she has mental problems and she needs professional help but people keep telling me its her fault and she chooses this and that i cant save her. THATS NOT AN OPTION FOR ME.

TinyViolins · 31-35, M

This is heart-breaking, but unfortunately an all too common story of what drug abuse does to a person. Some people get lucky and make it out, but not everyone does. Your mother cutting her out is a huge, huge part of the problem, and until they have a system of support, drug abusers will likely never stop until they die or go to prison.

I wish I could offer you helpful advice or a bit of hope, but I don't see how there's much you can do. Her body and mind have grown to become dependent on drugs, and only through a rehabilitation process can she ween herself back to normalcy. Your sister also has to want to help herself, because she's learned how to manipulate people to get what she wants until her next high.

The best thing you can do is to continue being there for her, because as long as she's alive there's still some hope. The downside to this is that she will emotionally drain you the entire time, so you should also look out for yourself unless you want to be dragged down with her.

I would suggest trying to appeal to her better nature and telling her how her drug use is hurting you. You said that you have nobody, and I think your sister feels that same way deep down as well. That could be a point of commonality that brings you together. The next step would be to give her something to hope for. Maybe being a cool aunt or a musician or just a good friend. Whatever makes her want a better life.

The next and most crucial step would be to recommend her into an inpatient addiction center. She's gotten herself into some pretty deep doodoo and needs all the help she can get to pull her out. Maybe it works the first time or maybe it's the start of a longer journey, but if you can get her to see the light at the end of the tunnel, you can find a way to stop this.

MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M

You can't make someone stop using drugs. She's already overdosed and she knows it's bad for her but she keeps doing it. What else can you do ? Say a prayer.