Ever experienced this kind of abuse?

As a kid (and a very unhappy one), sometimes my witchy mother would get very angry and she'd grab me by the forearm and whirl me around the room while screaming at me. She wouldn't beat me up--the furniture would do that! I'd always feel it was basically my fault for being clumsy and tripping over the furniture or banging into it. Often these incidents would end with me becoming so dizzy I'd just fall down in a heap and be too dizzy to get back up again while my mother stood there laughing at me for my idiotic helplessness.

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Carlisle · F

I’m so sorry to hear that. As a child that must have been so frightening. Sending you lots of warm hugs. 💔💔💔

And it’s super brave to share this too. I find ir difficult to share but when others do it gives me courage.
So thank you for sharing.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@Carlisle In real life, if I tell about this, people say, "And what did YOU do? Mothers don't do things like this unless there's a GOOD reason!" It's always assumed to have been my own fault. As if there were any good reason to do this to a child!

Carlisle · F

@greenmountaingal I hope you will be able to heal. Know that it wasn’t your fault. Parents are supposed to safeguard their children.
My mom had issues but it’s taken a long time for her to realise. I felt a lot of guilt speaking up about it as if I was being disloyal somehow.
You did nothing to deserve that and you deserved to feel safe in your own home. Sending you lots of healing vibes especially to your inner child. ❤️‍🩹
And this is your truth. Anyone who judges you and blames you I would distance yourself from them. Surround yourself with kindness and understanding. You were just a child and you were the vulnerable one.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@Carlisle From my experience, people more often takes the side of the abuser. Very few have ever taken my side.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@greenmountaingal I remember people acting like they were afraid of getting involved. I don’t think anyone took his side though. Maybe they feared for their own selves as most were elderly or maybe they thought if they tried to intercede that he would take it out on us. Living in a small village everyone in that village knew very well what my father was doing, he was drunk & violent. I wondered why someone didn’t call in on him, we were not in a police district but the sheriff could have been called. It ended badly there when he kidnapped a 17-year old boy, tied him up & brought him to the house and beat the crap out of him for a couple of hours, maiming him in the process….broken noise, ribs, arms broken in about 8 places and bruises and cuts all over his body. He let him go eventually and he found his way to the blacktop road a couple blocks down the road and flagged a driver down to take him to get him help.