Am I being harsh?
My partners brother has had a baby recently. They told us they want my partner involved as he is the only biological uncle to the baby. But ever since he’s been things have been a little icy.
My partner and his brother are huge football fans, although they aren’t close they do share that one love and my partner wants to share his passion of football with the baby (who’s a boy, not stereotyping). We have spend hundreds on the baby buying gifts etc thag we think would be nice. But these gifts are never appreciated by the parents, some clothes have never been worn and thrown away etc so I’m feeling a little frustrated anyway.
My partner was made godparent again, a lovely gesture. And got the baby a football gift (him and his brother support the same team so got the baby a gift relating to that team) to which the parents was horrified almost! Saying they do not want any football related items buying for the baby as they want him to make his own mind up. We offered to take the item back but was told no. This made me even more frustrated! Her family are big into cycling and we have already been told we can’t buy anything to do with that as her family are as it’s their passion…. Yet my partner (the baby’s ONLY uncle) cannot buy the baby something that’s his passion?
I’ve had enough of it and I’m quite frankly fed up of spending money and the gifts not been appreciated. I’ve said from now on we are only buying for birthday and Christmas and even then I’m not going over board because it isn’t appreciated and I’d rather spend it on people who are appreciated of gifts.
Am I being harsh? Tried to reason with them but it’s like getting blood out of a stone, we’re never included in anything and whenever we invite them to do something it’s always declined or ignored! Tired speaking to partners parents but as it’s their first grandchild they don’t wanna know.
My partner and his brother are huge football fans, although they aren’t close they do share that one love and my partner wants to share his passion of football with the baby (who’s a boy, not stereotyping). We have spend hundreds on the baby buying gifts etc thag we think would be nice. But these gifts are never appreciated by the parents, some clothes have never been worn and thrown away etc so I’m feeling a little frustrated anyway.
My partner was made godparent again, a lovely gesture. And got the baby a football gift (him and his brother support the same team so got the baby a gift relating to that team) to which the parents was horrified almost! Saying they do not want any football related items buying for the baby as they want him to make his own mind up. We offered to take the item back but was told no. This made me even more frustrated! Her family are big into cycling and we have already been told we can’t buy anything to do with that as her family are as it’s their passion…. Yet my partner (the baby’s ONLY uncle) cannot buy the baby something that’s his passion?
I’ve had enough of it and I’m quite frankly fed up of spending money and the gifts not been appreciated. I’ve said from now on we are only buying for birthday and Christmas and even then I’m not going over board because it isn’t appreciated and I’d rather spend it on people who are appreciated of gifts.
Am I being harsh? Tried to reason with them but it’s like getting blood out of a stone, we’re never included in anything and whenever we invite them to do something it’s always declined or ignored! Tired speaking to partners parents but as it’s their first grandchild they don’t wanna know.
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