A rough start to the week

Today I had a very upset little girl who can’t understand why she isn’t allowed to see someone who she still loves, despite how they abused her. The meltdown & her sad little face all afternoon broke my heart. She ate hardly anything for dinner and was so drained from crying that she had a nap laying on me for an hour.

Trauma sucks.

Hoping that since we started the week so badly it can only get better...

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Valerian · 100+, M

Hopefully much better will be the case. Try distractions that are New to her and hopefully [u]don't[/u] have a connection to the abuser.

For young kids, doing New Things or Discovering Nature are great because they're little curious creatures that are interested in nearly anything!

Going for a Simple Walk and Looking at Everything can be an ADVENTUROUS Learning Time and also a fun pleasant distraction.

Look for Bugs, Rocks, Leaves, & such outside, take a picture and then look them up online.
You can Play with the 🐛🦋🐞🦗🐌 then let it go!
If Bugs are Too Icky Yucky, there's Rocks/Gravel and Leaves to do the same with!

Raffiki · 22-25, F

@Valerian thanks! I’m definitely not letting her see her. But she’s actually not allowed to see her anyway, like by law.

She’s a beach babe & its warm today so I might take her snorkelling & kayaking after school to take her mind off it. Hopefully tire her out so she will fall asleep easily tonight and not have time to get upset.

Valerian · 100+, M

@Raffiki Oh! She's a bit older than I'd had in my head.
Beach ⛱️🏖️ is an excellent choice.

I'm guessing you're a bit older than 18-21? No matter though. Sounds like the girl is in caring hands now.

Raffiki · 22-25, F

@Valerian she’s 8 🥰 I’m 21. She’s my sister but I have custody.

She loved the snorkelling & got super brave diving down to see the fish. She’s a happy girl today.

Valerian · 100+, M

@Raffiki 🤔
[big][c=BF0080][center]😃 You're Fantastic 🤗
and 👩‍👦 the
🏆 BEST SISTER EVER ❣️
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Raffiki · 22-25, F

@Valerian thank you!