What is the sweetest thing you remember your mom doing for you?

We grew up with nothing. My mom earned but she tried to keep us afloat. A packet of chips and a canned soda was only visible at home when we had school trips because my mom didn't want us to feel left out when all the other kids ate.

Given how life was, my mom would bring home the food/snacks given to her at work during parties. She would give it to us because she felt bad we wouldn't be able to have them so she'd not consume it but bring it for us.

What's the sweetest thing you remember your mom/dad doing for you?

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fernie2

What is this d-a-d you speak of? The sweetest thing my mother ever did for me was to die.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@fernie2 Tbh if my dad left earlier then my life would've been different. I wouldn't have to be held in a cage and act as his puppet. Had my mom not been there for me, I'd have killed myself by now.

A small example of his controlling attitude is this. I once bought a burger from KFC and I hid it from him. I hid in a corner of a house to eat it because if he had found that out, he'd make my life a living hell. I was 21 years old then and I never did alcohol or cigs. I just liked eating which was a crime. I ate this maybe once in 4 months or so lol and that was a problem for him too.

fernie2

@Beatbox34 I am so sorry! His behavior was incredibly sick and abusive.Most people I have met are appalled when you say negative things about parents. As if the instant someone becomes a parent they are automatically exempt from their horrible behavior. There are SO many "parents" who NEVER should have had children because they suck at it. We are free now. It's important that we do not rehash in our minds what they did to us. That's giving up part of our lives NOW...giving them power...if we don't learn to let it go...we may as well still be back there. Maybe you have let it go...i don't know. I hope so.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@fernie2 It's okay. I really do understand you. When one deals with it firsthand then they'll get it. I used to tell it to my then friends when I was younger and they all called me out for trashing him. I stopped it at a certain point. I still don't talk about him a lot to anyone anymore.

I am free from him but his blunders caught up to me even after he died. He screwed up so much in life and it eats me to see that guy didn't even do one thing right which is making my life painful. That's my only gripe. I'm trying to fix it. Tbh I never want to remember him at times.

fernie2

@Beatbox34 I hear that. Isn't it incredible the amount of damage one person can do to others. It IS a lifetime struggle to be completely free of those memories. Even so, we are both survivors.

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

@fernie2 It is. They lived to break us and now that they're gone, they left it harder for us.