I Am Stronger Because of All I've Been Through

This divorce has already taught me quite a bit. I'm seeing my ex through different eyes now. He and I have been living more like roommates and friends for years anyway...but...he's a completely different person now. He's become more passive-aggressive and selfish. I don't understand it. He has a girlfriend and plans out so much time for them, and I hurt for my kids. This weekend, he and she are going away today until Saturday for the U2 concert. He's doing stuff with her he never did with me.

But, I'm also seeing what I want and what I don't want in a man and companion. This has made me stronger and I feel my old self coming back. In the end, I know this will bring some awesome new beginnings!

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lasergraph · 70-79, M

It is like a politician campaigning for a vote. He is doing a lot with the girlfriend because there isn't a commitment yet. Once there is you may see him change with her because that is his pattern.

aradia11 · 61-69, F

You have a good road ahead of you...His GIRLFRIEND will see Mr Hyde just like you did. Passive Aggressive is the worst. They are never wrong.
Let him play his game...
Remember if he strays from one he will stray from another..
Be glad you have your Independence. You can do whatever you wish!!!

Ramon67 · 61-69, M

I'm glad to know that although divorced . You are still a parent that put her kids needs before your own . Most couples once divorced will become selfish and only cater to their own needs .

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@Nomar67: Thus is with my ex LOL I'll always put my kids first.

Ramon67 · 61-69, M

@TenderHeart: my ex did the same thing . I decided after the divorce that my kids needs were first and my could wait .

SW-User

I'm sure it hurts but is he really doing anything all too different from what anyone coming out of a relationship would do? Sure he's doing stuff with the new woman he didn't do with you but maybe he's having his own "reawakening"...much like you say you are going through. Sounds like he's having his own awesome new beginnings.

However you did say you feel sorry for the kids....sure it's quite selfish if he's neglecting his time with them....depends on the situation I suppose.

Was this a jackass response? Should I have just called him a bastard and hugged you? 😂

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@TotalEclipse: Yeah...maybe you should have :)
And yes, he is neglecting time with his kids.

SW-User

@TenderHeart: Lol, again I by no means know the situation other than what you just said. Was just trying to give an honest answer.

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

@TotalEclipse: No worries :) I appreciate that you are acknowledging you don't know the situation. Not everyone will do that lol

Longlegs2014 · 61-69, M

It is so hard, but sounds like you will be better off in the long run. Good luck.

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