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Am I a horrible person for letting this continue to bother me?

So tonight my mom came home and the table wasn't set for dinner. My sister and I had been talking and we simply forgot, but as soon as she came home we immediately went to do it. This still did not make my mom happy. She called me useless and said she wants me to quit going to school and get a full time job . I work part time and help out when asked to, including assisting my parents with dropping my little siblings off at practices and stuff. Of course she went back to normal after dinner, but without an apology. Is it bad of me to still be hurt, even though she went back to normal?
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Elegy · 46-50
No but realize it probably wasn't you. It was probably a capper to a shit day.
antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F
@Halcyon: It probably was me...she's known to call me useless quite often
Elegy · 46-50
Gabby, the likelihood that you alone caused that flash of anger right after work is nil. As a teenager who is depended upon in the home you are going to be the landing point for a lot of crap that has nothing to do with you. It isn't intentional you just happen to be there. Are you old enough to move out?
antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F
I am but if I stay in college I won't have the money to@Halcyon:
Elegy · 46-50
@gabby: People get apartments and go to college all the time. I'm not saying it will be easy but it is possible. That being said, as the parent of a teenager and an ex teenager myself. I can assure you Things will get better between you and your mother once you're out of the house. That is simply the nature of things. You can either hunker down and try to put up with it. If your relationship is good enough talk it through or move out and try and repair it if you want to. This is just a rough period for parents and their kids. You're ready to do your own thing and they need you to start pulling your weight.
antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F
Thanks @Halcyon:
Elegy · 46-50
@gabby: NP, just remember it's not about that moment it's about everything that has led up to that moment. That thinking is too shallow and you'll never get any answers that way. You'r mom isn't just upset about the table, that would be ludicrous.
antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F
I really think she's unhappy with her life so anytime she's angry with her own life she tries to make others unhappy
Elegy · 46-50
@gabby: That makes a lot of sense. She's unhappy so she's lashing out . Especially when others seemingly make it worse.


It's not you specifically, Okay?

She loves you
antisocialbutterfly · 22-25, F
Okay
steelheartbroken · 26-30, M
@antisocialbutterfly Everyone in the society do the same. Just being keep silent at that moment and not taking their words, you might feel good.