If someone loves you, they don’t try to destroy you whenever they don’t get there way

It's important to share that thought with anyone claiming to love you but is doing that. What you are describing is immature and manipulation. When I was very young, I was immature like that. I don't think I was trying to "destroy" but I was trying to get my way...I learned that what I was doing was wrong. It's learnable/correctable. I learned what was wrong was what I wanted.

For sure that’s very selfish