how do you cope when you're going through a stressful worrying time
i'm no stranger to times like this at all, throughout my adult life i've had a lot of struggles and adversity, mainly to do with my mental health problems, which caused a lot of it.
just recently, my care coordinator or social worker who i finally built up trust in after over a year of knowing her and her being allocated to me as my social worker, she has really messed up a situation which was working and going well for me initially, she has double crossed me in effect.
basically, me and my mother have had to fight to get decent mental health support for a long time, as i haven't had that at all much in the past when i was much worse with my mental health...so finally for over a year, this new case worker was assigned to me......because of my mental health problems, i'm mistrustful of everyone and have had ideas people are plotting my ruin........
but because my mum has spoke to my case worker and got to know her and from my mums impression thought she was doing her best for me and working for my best care and interests, i begun to finally put my trust in this new care coordinator.
my social worker recently sorted out getting a care agency involved, to have care workers visit me a few times a week to assist me with sorting out in my flat and to gradually help me to get outside, as i've isolated myself for months due to anxiety problems....so recently the care visits started, it went really well, i got on with the care workers...they helped my a great deal in my flat......but then one of the care workers informed me their offices has had new instructions from their management team on how they care for me......new instructions from my social worker which now say; the care workers are not to go into his flat anymore....i'm to meet the care workers outside...and basically putting pressure on me to go out all the time?
so, basically my care coordinator has backtracked on the agreement and understanding on what the care workers are to help me with, and putting new strict conditions on the criteria of me getting help from the care company?
my case worker has also appeared to radically change her stance , her personality and view on how i should be cared for, making me lose all the trust id built up in her.. because what she said and agreed with me on my mother about what the care agency was to do....she has now scrapped and placed authoritarian conditions on the care.
also, because my mental issues were so bad long ago and i wasn't getting any support at the time in the community, i ended up being admitted to a psychiatric hospital, which is where i thought id finally get the help....but it was hell, and not what i thought.....i won a tribunal to get out of there with a top solicitor, my mums help and other loved ones....because the hospital tried to make the argument of not having me released, and making out i was more unwell unstable than i actually was? but our case/' argument won over the hospitals, and it was established i never should have been admitted in the first place and i only was because i wasn't getting the support in society at the time...that was back in 1999.
so now, my case worker who i trusted, has dug up those old records from the hospital admission for some unknown reason, because it was proved those records weren't relevant or applicable to me anymore, this why i was discharged at the time...but now my case worker wants to forward those hospital records to this care company that they got for me...which could impact the care i get? my worker is trying to make them old records which were proven false, relevant to me now after all this time?
so as i state at the start of the post, my care coordinator has backtracked on the shared agreement on my care and double crossed me too?
these recent events has made me unwell again, depressed, stressed, insecure and very worried about the care which was working for me, will it now all fall through because of what my care coordinator has done??
so now, me, my mother, one of my sisters as well, is once again trying to fight to get the care i deserve...all because my care coordinator has radically changed her approach to me and my care? she's turned out to be devient and not do what she said she would do or agree to?
this is causing me so much worry and stress as i thought id finally found the care and help for my mental help i sort after for a long time.. now im worrying will it all fall through? making me feel insecure....my mother and sister have asked to speak to the mental health services manager next week......nothing can be done over the weekend...so it will be a worrying, stressful weekend now worrying will i lose this care agency support because of what my social workers done?
just recently, my care coordinator or social worker who i finally built up trust in after over a year of knowing her and her being allocated to me as my social worker, she has really messed up a situation which was working and going well for me initially, she has double crossed me in effect.
basically, me and my mother have had to fight to get decent mental health support for a long time, as i haven't had that at all much in the past when i was much worse with my mental health...so finally for over a year, this new case worker was assigned to me......because of my mental health problems, i'm mistrustful of everyone and have had ideas people are plotting my ruin........
but because my mum has spoke to my case worker and got to know her and from my mums impression thought she was doing her best for me and working for my best care and interests, i begun to finally put my trust in this new care coordinator.
my social worker recently sorted out getting a care agency involved, to have care workers visit me a few times a week to assist me with sorting out in my flat and to gradually help me to get outside, as i've isolated myself for months due to anxiety problems....so recently the care visits started, it went really well, i got on with the care workers...they helped my a great deal in my flat......but then one of the care workers informed me their offices has had new instructions from their management team on how they care for me......new instructions from my social worker which now say; the care workers are not to go into his flat anymore....i'm to meet the care workers outside...and basically putting pressure on me to go out all the time?
so, basically my care coordinator has backtracked on the agreement and understanding on what the care workers are to help me with, and putting new strict conditions on the criteria of me getting help from the care company?
my case worker has also appeared to radically change her stance , her personality and view on how i should be cared for, making me lose all the trust id built up in her.. because what she said and agreed with me on my mother about what the care agency was to do....she has now scrapped and placed authoritarian conditions on the care.
also, because my mental issues were so bad long ago and i wasn't getting any support at the time in the community, i ended up being admitted to a psychiatric hospital, which is where i thought id finally get the help....but it was hell, and not what i thought.....i won a tribunal to get out of there with a top solicitor, my mums help and other loved ones....because the hospital tried to make the argument of not having me released, and making out i was more unwell unstable than i actually was? but our case/' argument won over the hospitals, and it was established i never should have been admitted in the first place and i only was because i wasn't getting the support in society at the time...that was back in 1999.
so now, my case worker who i trusted, has dug up those old records from the hospital admission for some unknown reason, because it was proved those records weren't relevant or applicable to me anymore, this why i was discharged at the time...but now my case worker wants to forward those hospital records to this care company that they got for me...which could impact the care i get? my worker is trying to make them old records which were proven false, relevant to me now after all this time?
so as i state at the start of the post, my care coordinator has backtracked on the shared agreement on my care and double crossed me too?
these recent events has made me unwell again, depressed, stressed, insecure and very worried about the care which was working for me, will it now all fall through because of what my care coordinator has done??
so now, me, my mother, one of my sisters as well, is once again trying to fight to get the care i deserve...all because my care coordinator has radically changed her approach to me and my care? she's turned out to be devient and not do what she said she would do or agree to?
this is causing me so much worry and stress as i thought id finally found the care and help for my mental help i sort after for a long time.. now im worrying will it all fall through? making me feel insecure....my mother and sister have asked to speak to the mental health services manager next week......nothing can be done over the weekend...so it will be a worrying, stressful weekend now worrying will i lose this care agency support because of what my social workers done?
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