does being 'nervous' and not self confident when talking to a woman, put her off
there's this old classmate who i've been catching up with recently on facebook, she was a friend back in primary school long ago, she has mentioned in facebook messenger in the past, ' i know you've had a hard life and i don't know the half ' - and i wondered how she found out about that as i've never told her?
but she seemed really interested in chatting to me recently and recently suggested could she give me a phonecall, because she finds it awkward to text? so i said ' yeah i thought you'd never ask, i thought it, but didn't feel confident in suggesting it , but itd be really nice to hear from you by phone '.
and she was saying ' id like to call you, it'd be nice to hear your voice after so long ' .....and she actually called me last night after 9pm, but i bottled it and never picked up the call because i'm aware that i struggle to hold conversation, struggle socially, often don't know what to say, struggle with my self confidence etc ' so i never answered her phonecall.
so my plan was to phone her the same time she phoned me last night, sometime after 9pm, but i know i will struggle to hold a conversation because of the problems i mentioned? ie - not being confident, being nervous with her...not knowing what to say etc - but i still want to try as she is somebody who i would like to keep contact with and strengthen the friendship with? ....but i feel be really nervous and not confident, in case i make a social mistake and never hear from her again???
but she seemed really interested in chatting to me recently and recently suggested could she give me a phonecall, because she finds it awkward to text? so i said ' yeah i thought you'd never ask, i thought it, but didn't feel confident in suggesting it , but itd be really nice to hear from you by phone '.
and she was saying ' id like to call you, it'd be nice to hear your voice after so long ' .....and she actually called me last night after 9pm, but i bottled it and never picked up the call because i'm aware that i struggle to hold conversation, struggle socially, often don't know what to say, struggle with my self confidence etc ' so i never answered her phonecall.
so my plan was to phone her the same time she phoned me last night, sometime after 9pm, but i know i will struggle to hold a conversation because of the problems i mentioned? ie - not being confident, being nervous with her...not knowing what to say etc - but i still want to try as she is somebody who i would like to keep contact with and strengthen the friendship with? ....but i feel be really nervous and not confident, in case i make a social mistake and never hear from her again???
46-50, M