how do you 'act' cool towards women you like
i get advised by my wonderful elderly mum and others to, to try and not be too desperate or eager with women i like, or too 'needy' 'clingy' because it frightens them off, and indeed i've found that to be true when i've tried to interact with women i like online.........because of social problems, mental problems i suffered and lack of experience and not much interaction with girls, i have exhibited those traits with women online and they lost interest almost right away, and i never heard from them again.
also, if it's a woman i really like, i have felt a pressure to try to keep the chat with her going, in order to keep her interested, but at the same time having the problem of running short of things to say or talk about.....causing the conversation to die away, then she goes away and i never hear from her again......it's frustrating problem.
my mother has told me many times to try and hold back and be cool with women, but i find that hard to do because of all the reasons i stated above.....but i do long for a connection, because i missed out on relationships in my adult life, because of many problems i had and i'm in my late 40s now.
so what can i do on the odd time i do have an opportunity for interaction with a woman??
also, if it's a woman i really like, i have felt a pressure to try to keep the chat with her going, in order to keep her interested, but at the same time having the problem of running short of things to say or talk about.....causing the conversation to die away, then she goes away and i never hear from her again......it's frustrating problem.
my mother has told me many times to try and hold back and be cool with women, but i find that hard to do because of all the reasons i stated above.....but i do long for a connection, because i missed out on relationships in my adult life, because of many problems i had and i'm in my late 40s now.
so what can i do on the odd time i do have an opportunity for interaction with a woman??
46-50, M
