I am so frustrated with my ex boyfriend

I have told him I have cancer and he doesn’t even bother to see if I am ok. I don’t know if he got the email or messages but I’m so disappointed. I know he told me goodbye a long time ago but ignoring me when I am sick is just cruel. I know he moved on and got engaged/married and told me to please take care and a have a good life. He stopped being my friend but even if I am sick he will not talk to me. I know he doesn’t want to upset or make his wife suspicious for a relationship that ended long ago but for Christs sake I might be dying here and he doesn’t even have the compassion to ask me if I am ok?

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ThePatientAnarchist · 61-69

First of all, wishing you healing and strength!
But to your point -- it sounds like this man left your life a long time ago. If an ex of mine from years ago got in touch out of the blue to tell me she was seriously ill, I don't know that I would respond. For one thing I would not know what to say. I also might fear that she was out to manipulate me in some way.
Also -- you say you don't know if he actually received your messages. So it seems doubly unfair to be angry at him.
Yet, all of this is coming from your being ill and afraid of dying. It makes so much sense that you are having all kinds of hard feelings. I hope your situation changes for the better!

midnightmagic · 31-35, F

@ThePatientAnarchist he left a year and seven months ago just about. I was so heartbroken at losing his friendship. I broke up with him eight months before to let him not have to be tied down as a romantic. Partner to my mental illnesses and lack of financial independence and waiting around for me to get my life together so we could be together in real life. If he didn’t get the messages and emails, he would have blocked my emails. If he got them and is ignoring me, that’s cruel.