Is it unhealthy to bring up past situations in an arguement?

Example being," I'm feeling disrespected, and this isn't the first time".

"I mentioned to you on such a day, that this was disrespectful and you told me that you would try not to do it again, but here I am today feeling the same way".

"Why are we talking about that, that was dealt with and in the past!"

"This is patterned behaviour and it's leaving me feeling the same way!"

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LadyBronte · 56-60, F

If past problems are resolved, leave them in the past where they belong. If it is a continuation of the same problem over and over, and there's been no resolution, there's no reason it cannot be mentioned. If that's the case, and the behavior is intentional, the only question that remains is how long you will put up with that pattern of behavior, before you do something about it.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@LadyBronte I hear you. Thank you. Food for thought.