Is it unhealthy to bring up past situations in an arguement?

Example being," I'm feeling disrespected, and this isn't the first time".

"I mentioned to you on such a day, that this was disrespectful and you told me that you would try not to do it again, but here I am today feeling the same way".

"Why are we talking about that, that was dealt with and in the past!"

"This is patterned behaviour and it's leaving me feeling the same way!"

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SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M

If it's not resolved, I would say its fair game.

I would expect more specifics. How were you disrespected?

Also, I don't agree with the notion that someone can "make you feel" a certain way. Your feelings are your own.

Say, "I felt this way, when this happened." Or, "When you said this, I felt this way...."

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@SumKindaMunster ok, so my choice of words are incorrect then but does that change their actions creating the feelings of disrespect.
The disrespect could be something of a cultural difference or not speaking up for me in a situation that called for them to have input.