Is it unhealthy to bring up past situations in an arguement?

Example being," I'm feeling disrespected, and this isn't the first time".

"I mentioned to you on such a day, that this was disrespectful and you told me that you would try not to do it again, but here I am today feeling the same way".

"Why are we talking about that, that was dealt with and in the past!"

"This is patterned behaviour and it's leaving me feeling the same way!"

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swirlie · 31-35

Perhaps not, but bringing up past situations is always a great way to start an argument in the first place!

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@swirlie umm... Unfortunately when dealing with a word smith, they like to twist and turn everything. It can make proving a point really difficult.

swirlie · 31-35

@Mellowgirl
Oh, one of those... 🙄

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@swirlie yea one of those. Annoying as hell.
They like to do monologues, I think it's a wearing down tactic but I get bored and zone out until there's a break to reiterate my point. I think the longest they went on for was 4 hours.

swirlie · 31-35

@Mellowgirl
I don't feel so bad, though I endured something similar.

I got into a monologue with a distant relative of mine on a park bench in a cemetery a few years back, where he went on... non-stop without a break... for 3 hours straight, not saying anything new, but only repeating verbatim what he'd already repeated 5 times within that 3 hour sitting.

It was as if he were reading from a script he'd prepared before we had met up. When I say "verbatim", I mean literally the exact same words in the exact same sentences spoken, as if it had all been pre-memorized. It was a bazaar experience actually.

When there was finally a break in the action, I stood up and said I had to get on my way since half the day was now shot, which were words that didn't actually resonate with him.

The first thing he said in response to me was, "So Jen, what's new with you?".

That was the last time I ever saw him! 🫣