If someone horrible to you dies but he is being mourned by someone you care about, how do you deal?

@Casheyane I wouldn’t feel bad for the person who passed away. But if someone I cared about was mourning their death for whatever reason I’d be there as a support system still. I wouldn’t pretend to also be mourning or anything. But I’d be an ear to listen to, shoulder to cry on and willing to help wherever I could

@UndercoverBard To be real...if you were the other person who was mourning...I just don't think you'd want you as company. Or something like that.

I don't really know what I was expecting to hear with this post. But yeah, it's worth some thinking, I guess.

When it happened to me...let's just say I couldn't do it.

People's actions when they are alive would always have consequences. The living have the right to do and feel what they must. No need to push force any feeling when there is none.

@Casheyane no judgment here. I can see wanting to distance yourself from the situation. I say I would be there for the other person but I can’t say for sure how I’d feel unless I lived the experience myself and I’m sure the severity of how that person treated me would be a factor

@HijabaDabbaDoo This. i have an aunt who has been carrying on about her daughter who passed for years, but i despised the girl and for VERY good reason. That being said, it was her only child and she loved her dearly. i absolutely understand the woman's grief and let her process it however she needs to. i've never said a word to her or my cousin's children about it. But i have to take a deep, DEEP breath when she mentions her to me. Sometimes it is best to just understand it is bigger and beyond ourselves. it doesn't mean what we went through isn't valid. just that every moment is NOT ours.