how should you deal with people who say or insinuate demeaning things

one of my favourite colours i like to wear is red and once i had someone insinuate that i not only didn't didn't suit red, but i resembled mickey mouse wearing red...and i felt furious and nearly went berserk on the person...but at the last minute exercised self restraint and walked away.

how should you deal with people like that who are demeaning and just not nice?

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Tellmeaboutyourself · 26-30, F Best Comment

I had similar incident when i was in colleage and girls are much more harsher when it comes to judging appearances. One of my so called 'friends' said that the dresses i wear remind her of colonial times. Crux of such comments is insecurity and they want to break your spirit someway or the other. I responded to her saying that these colonial dresses have garnered a lot of attention from men and she couldn't respond anything.
They dont expect us to reply to their comments and think that they won their purpose. If we strike back, they will realize that we are much more than those bullies who havent matured past middle school