My partners adult daughter in her 30s is always trying to come between me an her Dad. We got engaged recently and she would look at my engagement ring

Its like a silent tug of war but she always acts so innocent to her Dad. When I try to explain her actions to my partner I'm met with aggression and acusations that I dont like his daughter. She has done many things in the past that are too many to mention. Her Dad is Italian and worships her. I feel the relationship is doomed as I dont attend family events anymore and she also turned my partners daughter in law against me but ill never find out what she said. Exhausted trying to figure out all this. Im not even sure if my partner genuinely loves me. I think he loves me when alls going well for him. Thoughts🤔 can this survive? His ex wife I think is in it to. So much jealousy!!😩

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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

There’s nothing more sexy than a doting dad to his kids but if he’s not smart enough to see things as they are or defend you then it’s time to go. That’s not love.

Ciaotutti · F

@Keepitsimple He wont defend me. Even when his daughter wasnt there. I showed her my engagement ring she muttered something and walked away. I tried to reason with my partner that thats not normal after 7 years but he just shakes his head and refuses to address it and says I over think!!! I see what I see!.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

If she is grown doing this and he can’t see what is going on he never will. You will never be understood or treated well. You’ve done 7 years of this already, is this how you always want it to be because clearly nothing is going to be changing@Ciaotutti

Ciaotutti · F

@Keepitsimple its funny 7 years ago I mentioned to my ex that i met someone new. I told him he was Italian. What he said all those years ago " you will never be part of that family" seems to be right!! He didnt say it with malice just his opinion.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

It has nothing to do with being Italian. I’m Italian. Some men are happier living in the past with their first family is all.@Ciaotutti

Ciaotutti · F

@Keepitsimple yeah I think hes happier in the past thats why im sad. Im looking for a future! I feel like his weekend booty call not part of the family. We dont live together. Its like spagetti all mixed up.
Complex.