Does this sound rude?

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My new employer, via email, asked if I had something else I wanted to go by, other than my first name. I replied: I usually go by my middle name, but I'll go by [my first name].

Her response: "we can do your middle name, what is it"?.

How are YOU gonna pick what [b]I[/b] want to be called ( on my name badge)???

We are allowed to use middle names or nicknames but I am choosing to go by my real first name for once in my life...and she's basically saying no.

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Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

I do not think that was rude, if you usually go by your middle name maybe she thought she was being accommodating. I do not see you saying she said no, you cannot go by your first name, just tell her you want to go by your first, I doubt she will care. You are reading way too much into it. Had you have simply answered her question without saying you usually go by your middle name there would have been no confusion. If you are trying to go by your first name now why even bring it up.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Lackwittyname i did tell her i want to go by my first name. Read above.

I brought it up because she shouldn't have asked me if I want to go by something else. I told her I used to, but I would like to go by my first name...

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

@iamnikki Yes, I read that, she might have thought that you were trying to be accommodating or something, who knows, but by saying I usually go by my middle name but I will go by my first you muddied the waters. Anyway, I do not think she was being rude, she is doing her job and accommodating people that might want to go by another name than their first is all. I would guess she asks everyone that question.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Lackwittyname maybe i did cause confusion. I was trying to give a nicer answer besides a simple " no". Those always seem harsh to me. Maybe its just me.

Thanks for being respectful.

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

@iamnikki Thanks for being respectful back and listening. Well maybe a "no" might have been harsh, but "No, my first name is good" might have sounded better.