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I Regret Falling In Love

... with someone who has a child. Come on, hate me, go ahead. People who have children are heartless when it comes to relationships, and take my advice: do not get involved with someone who is a parent. Simply because you will never be number one, you'll always come (in the best case scenario) second. No matter how much you love them, and maybe even how much you love their kid(s).
And that is something I would be willing to accept and understand, I was aware of being the "less important" one and I did respect that. But once someone completely runs you over (and reverses, and runs you over again) for the sake of their parenthood, they dare to be mad at you for being hurt and upset. That's the best for my son/daughter, they say, irritated and annoyed with you feeling like the world collapsed. The only feelings they value are the feelings of their kids, and a normal person wouldn't purposely take an adult's time and heart if they weren't interested an adult interaction, but a parent doesn't give a $h!t if you're going to end up fooled and hurt. A parent will lead you on as long as it pleases them and dump you like trash, when things like custody battle occupy them. It maked me sick. Someone who's a crappy person cannot and will not be a good parent to a human being.
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SW-User
I lost a girl in sort of a similar situation. Much complicated than yours, but still. I was thrown out the window.
ListenerTalker · 31-35, F
This is what it feels like, being cut off like dead weight.
SW-User
@ListenerTalker: Yeah. I knew once she said she needed time to sort out her priorities that it wouldn't end well for us. Even though she said I would be a top priority.
ListenerTalker · 31-35, F
@Contagious: what sucks pretty bad is how they get suprised when people get upset about being cut off like dead weight. He was almost shocked, like I should've expressed my endless admiration, but failed and felt backstabbed instead.
SW-User
@ListenerTalker: Pretty much. Like we're just supposed to forget about everything that had happened and continue to be friends after the fact. 😕
ListenerTalker · 31-35, F
@Contagious: riiight. Which obviously is not going to happen in my case. I told him not to contact me again, I can't allow to be emotionally tormented for months, I need to start healing. He was pretty pissed, I suppose he expected me to support him through his custody battle. :/
SW-User
@ListenerTalker: Mine was a little more understanding. She said it's fine if I talk with others, but I still think she gets jealous. 🤷 She pretty much ignores me. I think she just got bored with me but just won't admit it. She's "nice" like that. Honestly, i'd rather her tell me the truth. But I know she wouldn't if it means that it'll hurt me.
ListenerTalker · 31-35, F
@Contagious: I'm sorry it happened to you. Nobody deserves to be put away like an object that's not useful anymore.
SW-User
@ListenerTalker: I say i'm about 90% over it. It's taken awhile to move on from her.