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I Regret Falling In Love

... with someone who has a child. Come on, hate me, go ahead. People who have children are heartless when it comes to relationships, and take my advice: do not get involved with someone who is a parent. Simply because you will never be number one, you'll always come (in the best case scenario) second. No matter how much you love them, and maybe even how much you love their kid(s).
And that is something I would be willing to accept and understand, I was aware of being the "less important" one and I did respect that. But once someone completely runs you over (and reverses, and runs you over again) for the sake of their parenthood, they dare to be mad at you for being hurt and upset. That's the best for my son/daughter, they say, irritated and annoyed with you feeling like the world collapsed. The only feelings they value are the feelings of their kids, and a normal person wouldn't purposely take an adult's time and heart if they weren't interested an adult interaction, but a parent doesn't give a $h!t if you're going to end up fooled and hurt. A parent will lead you on as long as it pleases them and dump you like trash, when things like custody battle occupy them. It maked me sick. Someone who's a crappy person cannot and will not be a good parent to a human being.
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rottenrobi · 56-60, F
I'm sorry you experienced this too. Im thinking this person sounds like a selfish asshole. Maybe that's the problem, and they use the kid excuse to get out of commitments.
Im a single parent, and i keep my kids so far out of the relationship, they don't know or see fhis person for awhile. Im upfront with the time I have, and love making adult time.

I think this person is cruel, and distrustful, and I'm sorry you got involved with them.
ListenerTalker · 31-35, F
@rottenrobi: Thank you. He definitely uses his child as an excuse to get away with things, and he acts like everyone should admire him for it. I'll be better off without him, but for now it hurts bad.
rottenrobi · 56-60, F
He sounds very similar, in the way he thinks, to my ex. We were together for 16 years. Ugh.
I know the hurt you speak of deeply. Message me any time if you need to vent.
I'm serious.
ListenerTalker · 31-35, F
Thank you <3