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I Regret Falling In Love

... with someone who has a child. Come on, hate me, go ahead. People who have children [b]are[/b] heartless when it comes to relationships, and take my advice: [i]do not get involved with someone who is a parent[/i]. Simply because you will never be number one, you'll always come (in the best case scenario) second. No matter how much you love them, and maybe even how much you love their kid(s).
And that is something I would be willing to accept and understand, I was aware of being the "less important" one and I did respect that. But once someone completely runs you over (and reverses, and runs you over again) for the sake of their parenthood, they dare to be mad at you for being hurt and upset. That's the best for my son/daughter, they say, irritated and annoyed with you feeling like the world collapsed. The only feelings they value are the feelings of their kids, and a normal person wouldn't purposely take an adult's time and heart if they weren't interested an adult interaction, but a parent doesn't give a $h!t if you're going to end up fooled and hurt. A parent will lead you on as long as it pleases them and dump you like trash, when things like custody battle occupy them. It maked me sick. Someone who's a crappy person cannot and will not be a good parent to a human being.
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Scribbles · 36-40, F
Ouch, sorry you experienced that and feel so run over. Children do have to come first and you stated you respected that... And I imagine at some point everybody in the relationship when a child is involved will feel run over at some point. Some relationships have more or less baggage to deal with too. Some manage to make the relationship work and some don't. I wouldn't warn off everyone from it, but I think it does take alot of mental toughness and communication and a strong desire to be a family and make it work and make time for each person instead of excluding someone or taking out their frustrations on someone...and it has to come from both people. And even then sometimes it doesn't work out.

I hope your next relationship goes better.
ListenerTalker · 31-35, F
@Scribbles: Thank you.
Scribbles · 36-40, F
@ListenerTalker: no prob, :)
Really, I'd think everybody could be sympathetic to your pov...everybody ends up experiencing lies in a relationship at some point and can recognize how they hurt right? I'm surprised by how many people are nattering at you...maybe they didn't realize you did give the relationship a good go and are just venting?