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Food for Thought: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying

This is from a book written by a hospice nurse. Here's the introduction and what she listed as the top five regrets of those who are dying. Interesting.

[i]For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. This came from every male patient that I nursed.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to themselves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
Fairydust · F
Great list and I live by those now. 📝

I had to shake my life up because I knew I’d regret it later.
Ynotisay · M
@Fairydust Right on. 👍
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
Well, as I approach the finish line, to this point I would say only 2 partially applies. I wish I had taken more time to be more involved with my kids growing up, but then if I hadn't worked that hard I probably would have regrets in the #1 bucket.
Ynotisay · M
@dancingtongue Yeah. I'm not sure if it's a black and white thing in reality. If you regret doing one thing you might not have some of the others.
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Ynotisay · M
@jshm2 I don't believe what you're saying in any way. And hospitals aren't hospices. A hospice is where people go to die. These are bullet points from a book by a woman who was intimately familiar with the deaths of people she came to know. What I see are some lessons.
Penny · 46-50, F
great advice. thank you

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