I’m officially done trying to make friends

I’ve been trying to make my own friends since having our first in 2021. I guess I didn’t really have friends before that cause I moved to hubbys hometown 800 miles away from my own in 2016 and the “friends” I did have before kids were his friends that I met through him. He has a couple close friends/acquaintances currently but I’m still left with none.

We had a big fight last night and he told me the one friend, who’s a female and has been his friend for 20+ years, that I’ve been wanting to be friends with for the longest time doesn’t hang out with me because all I do is complain (she’s not wrong but I have nobody to talk to EVER) and tbh that stung hard. She hangs out when I’m not around and makes sure to leave before I get home from work, which I guess makes sense now that I know what I know. Like I suck to be around so much people actively avoid being around me so I deleted all the apps I had trying to make friends because it’s pointless. I’m a person who has to meet someone in person to feel a connection and keep up a relationship so trying to find friends online is pointless

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Scotty16 · 31-35

It sounds like your husband is quite possibly involved in an emotional affair with his very good female friend. The fact that the two of them spend so much time together (plus — she’s confiding in him!) when you’re away at work, and he’s siding with her, are indicative of an emotional affair.
Emotional affairs often morph into physical ones.
Your husband should be confronted about his behavior, but in a calm, caring manner. If he becomes angry and defensive, it’s pretty clear he’s guilty of having developed some emotional attachment to this woman.
Not healthy for you, him, your child, or your marriage💔.
I’m sorry for your difficulty making friends. It’s not an easy thing for people to do anymore, and it certainly sounds like your situation isn’t helping.