I’m officially done trying to make friends

I’ve been trying to make my own friends since having our first in 2021. I guess I didn’t really have friends before that cause I moved to hubbys hometown 800 miles away from my own in 2016 and the “friends” I did have before kids were his friends that I met through him. He has a couple close friends/acquaintances currently but I’m still left with none.

We had a big fight last night and he told me the one friend, who’s a female and has been his friend for 20+ years, that I’ve been wanting to be friends with for the longest time doesn’t hang out with me because all I do is complain (she’s not wrong but I have nobody to talk to EVER) and tbh that stung hard. She hangs out when I’m not around and makes sure to leave before I get home from work, which I guess makes sense now that I know what I know. Like I suck to be around so much people actively avoid being around me so I deleted all the apps I had trying to make friends because it’s pointless. I’m a person who has to meet someone in person to feel a connection and keep up a relationship so trying to find friends online is pointless

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Sounds like you’re putting a tremendous amount of pressure on yourself. I can feel the tension just through what you’ve written.

Think of some things you’d like to do and go out and do them. Let it unfold naturally. As for online, don’t take it so seriously. Like this place for example. Jump around and get to know people through light hearted banter with limited expectations.

Relax.