How is one supposed to not feel jealous when hubby has and hangs out with his own friends?
For context, I moved from South Carolina to Michigan in 2016 to be in my now-husbands hometown with him. That being said, its been almost 10 years and I have yet to make any of my own friends. Obviously hubbys from here so he's got at least a couple friends/acquaintances he hangs out with every so often and just because I don't have a social life doesn't mean he shouldn't either. Thats just selfish of me.
Having kids didn't make it any easier to make friends though. My family is 800 miles away and ever since his dad passed in a freak accident in 2020, his family barley know my kids but have no problem taking the other cousins....but i digress. So its basically just us. My husband has hobbies like car stereos and magnet fishing so he has places he can go and get away for a few hours with a friend or by himself and i fully support him having hobbies and a social life.
He gives me the same opportunities I give him as far as going to go and do something (that doesn't cost money) while he stays with the kids but.........I literally have nowhere I could go or no one I could call to hang out with for a bit just to get away from the kids for a while. I don't have any hobbies because everything I've tried so far I just suck at or can't get passionate about. I'm alone 90% of the time (hubby works full time during the day while I'm home with the kids and I work 7p-11p as an elementary school custodian and I'm lucky if i see another coworker in the 4 hours I work.) so when I see hubby hanging out with one or 2 friends (guys and girls) every so often and going to do things he enjoys with other adult people, I can't help but get a bit jealous and upset. Lets just be clear, he's done NOTHING wrong. This is a me problem. I'm pretty sure I have some sort of abandonment/rejection issues cause sometimes the loneliness and feeling of rejection can be overwhelming. Like I'm not apart of the 'cool kids club.' Even if a friend comes over while I'm at work and gone by the time i get there, I def get the feeling being left out. I have 0 and i said ZERO friends. My family again is 800 miles away so they can't help with this issue and hubbys family, basically rejected us too for what? I couldn't tell ya. Black Sheep and all that.
Sorry for the rambling its just one of those lonely mondays.
Having kids didn't make it any easier to make friends though. My family is 800 miles away and ever since his dad passed in a freak accident in 2020, his family barley know my kids but have no problem taking the other cousins....but i digress. So its basically just us. My husband has hobbies like car stereos and magnet fishing so he has places he can go and get away for a few hours with a friend or by himself and i fully support him having hobbies and a social life.
He gives me the same opportunities I give him as far as going to go and do something (that doesn't cost money) while he stays with the kids but.........I literally have nowhere I could go or no one I could call to hang out with for a bit just to get away from the kids for a while. I don't have any hobbies because everything I've tried so far I just suck at or can't get passionate about. I'm alone 90% of the time (hubby works full time during the day while I'm home with the kids and I work 7p-11p as an elementary school custodian and I'm lucky if i see another coworker in the 4 hours I work.) so when I see hubby hanging out with one or 2 friends (guys and girls) every so often and going to do things he enjoys with other adult people, I can't help but get a bit jealous and upset. Lets just be clear, he's done NOTHING wrong. This is a me problem. I'm pretty sure I have some sort of abandonment/rejection issues cause sometimes the loneliness and feeling of rejection can be overwhelming. Like I'm not apart of the 'cool kids club.' Even if a friend comes over while I'm at work and gone by the time i get there, I def get the feeling being left out. I have 0 and i said ZERO friends. My family again is 800 miles away so they can't help with this issue and hubbys family, basically rejected us too for what? I couldn't tell ya. Black Sheep and all that.
Sorry for the rambling its just one of those lonely mondays.
