Lesson learned with time

People who choose to act and think negatively actively push away those who don't. Positive people subconsciously annoy them because they don't share their negative interpretation which creates cognitive dissonance.

Eg. If you are calm and the other is stressed, you're "not taking it seriously". They externalise their stress onto you.

Choosing how we respond takes mastery of ourselves, I used to be very reactive until I learned that I don't have to be, and learned that i don't want others to feel that negativity either.

It could be that person in work who complains and brings down the mood, a friend of a friend who is insecure, a family member who always sees the bad and has to tell you about it.

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LadyGrace

Wise thoughts. Very true. I had an encounter with a person like that and treated them as kindly as I knew how, without criticism, but then they wanted to see it as criticism and take it personally, that I was against them instead of trying my best to help them, then proceeded to express their anger, then immediately blocked me before I could answer them in a mature and respectful way. That's okay that they blocked me, but in my book, that's a cowardly way to address things.

Mordechai · 31-35, M

@LadyGrace For negative people here I just tell people "it sounds like you're feeling sad, I hope your day gets better" and they either block me or don't interact with me after. Because it's always true.

LadyGrace

@Mordechai I always include that, as well. I'm not here to argue with people by any means, be negative, nor force what I believe on anyone. I simply share. How they perceive that is up to them. I believe in being honest and genuine. That's just the way I was raised. There will always be the blockers and sometimes for no good reason. That's just the way it is. We were not made to be people pleasers. Just to be honest and tell it like it is.

Orca4950 · 70-79, M

I'm in the situation you describe and hace been for a while. No is good enough or intelligent enough. I have unconsciously stopped listening to her and that brings on a different reaction, or problem.

She wonders why noone calls.

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

Eg. If you are calm and the other is stressed, you're "not taking it seriously". They externalise their stress onto you.

Very true.

Kstrong · 56-60, F

You make the choice of how you respond, what you choose to dwell on, seeing the negative or focusing on the positive. Choose to be thankful in the moment, what you can do... Basic needs, breathe, chew your food, swallow, digest it and eliminate it .. walk... Dress yourself, read and write ...

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