The most important decision of your life.

We hold onto a belief until it’s proven wrong by something outside of ourselves.

However, the only way to prove something right is through a process within ourselves.

This means the world will always tell you how you’re wrong and it’s up to you to tell the world how you’re right.

So the most important decision you’ll ever make in your life is choosing whatever you’re going to be right about.

The world doesn’t define you, you do, and until you understand that, you will always be wrong.

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OogieBoogie · F

The scary part of this is : we dont know everything.

So you can fully commit yourself to a belief or code, or way of living...
...only to belatedly find out years later, how wrong you were.

Which is great internal growth , but it doesnt stop you kicking yourself 😄

And that belief we hold on to ....is it outside forces that prove it wrong ?, or is it our own change in perception because of outside forces, that prove it wrong ?

It takes a VERY hard shove to make us change involuntarily - we are so smart we can make excuses for everything.

I dont deny it can happen. But i think we only best change when we decide it for ourselves. When we finally 'see'.

Reject · 26-30, M

@OogieBoogie That’s true! We don’t know everything, but that’s why you must follow your purpose in suffering instead of your desire for comfort. That way you won’t ever be wrong in how you’re right.

I’d say it’s our change in perception. They’re basically the same though. Same cause, same result. That shove sounds interesting! I’ve never seen that work before. Instead it’s always been what you said. People deciding something for themselves.

OogieBoogie · F

@Reject well now you made me think about it more .

And youre right, it all comes down to deciding for yourself which path you take - whether you decide out of the blue , or life, ( or a person , or a situation), shoves at you .

I sometimes wonder if some people never decide. Like they are batted around by circumstance and are always on the defence, or feel helpless by it .

As far as ive learned, life IS loss.
I mean, even to change for the better , one must let go part of themselves to make room for the new .
What do they say?...."you cant bake a cake without breaking some eggs".
You need to break to grow .
Snakes lose their old skins coz they grow out of them. Trees shed bark, Hermit crabs find bigger shells .

As much as we are creatures of habit , that isn't the way of nature .

We MUST change, we MUST let go or lose part of ourselves .

If we never do ....we are stuck in a world , and a life changing around us.

We MUST decide for change. Its primal : bare hunting grounds - move on.
Winter comes - move on .
Tribe slaughtered - move on .

You cant keep kicking th4 same old dead horse for 50 years , it gets you no where .

So yes .....throwing yourself in to 'making a decision ' whether good or bad , is better than standing in quicksand watching yourself sink .
Life is change , and change hurts.

But not forever.

Stillwaiting · M

@OogieBoogie Often its adapt, change .. or die (fail)

OogieBoogie · F

@Stillwaiting YES!
I believe this . We are meant to grow , to learn .

To stagnate is some kind of death .

Reject · 26-30, M

@OogieBoogie No pain! No gain! We start out very positive in childhood, and then forsake ourselves once we learn negativity. We’re then lost trying to get back to where we were, but we cannot return there. Not with this newfound knowledge of pain.

We run and we avoid. Longing for the comfort of what was while condemning the struggle of what is. In this we become trapped. Chasing little moments of pleasure always trying escape the pain. Some remain in this state of suffering until death. Wishing until the very end for the dreams they once knew.

The process of reclaiming yourself is when you confront all the bad you’ve experienced. No longer running away, you incorporate it into the new life you’ll make going forwards. Lessons learned you accept your hardship for all it’s taught you. You’ve let go of it’s command over you and now you command it.

You realize you don’t need to go back. That happy self you knew has been here all along. Even better now that you found it after knowing it’s loss. All you had to do was stop following your dreams, and start leading them. What you’ve always needed was never found anywhere but yourself.