The most important decision of your life.

We hold onto a belief until it’s proven wrong by something outside of ourselves.

However, the only way to prove something right is through a process within ourselves.

This means the world will always tell you how you’re wrong and it’s up to you to tell the world how you’re right.

So the most important decision you’ll ever make in your life is choosing whatever you’re going to be right about.

The world doesn’t define you, you do, and until you understand that, you will always be wrong.

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CookieCrumbs · F

You will not always be right. Experience may prove you wrong.

But knowing what you stand up for as right until proven wrong is what matters.

Don’t let the world define what right means. Discover it for yourself.

Reject · 26-30, M

@CookieCrumbs Someone can always be right if that’s what they choose, but in my opinion, that would be a very poor decision to make.

OogieBoogie · F

The scary part of this is : we dont know everything.

So you can fully commit yourself to a belief or code, or way of living...
...only to belatedly find out years later, how wrong you were.

Which is great internal growth , but it doesnt stop you kicking yourself 😄

And that belief we hold on to ....is it outside forces that prove it wrong ?, or is it our own change in perception because of outside forces, that prove it wrong ?

It takes a VERY hard shove to make us change involuntarily - we are so smart we can make excuses for everything.

I dont deny it can happen. But i think we only best change when we decide it for ourselves. When we finally 'see'.

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Stillwaiting · M

@OogieBoogie Often its adapt, change .. or die (fail)

OogieBoogie · F

@Stillwaiting YES!
I believe this . We are meant to grow , to learn .

To stagnate is some kind of death .

Reject · 26-30, M

@OogieBoogie No pain! No gain! We start out very positive in childhood, and then forsake ourselves once we learn negativity. We’re then lost trying to get back to where we were, but we cannot return there. Not with this newfound knowledge of pain.

We run and we avoid. Longing for the comfort of what was while condemning the struggle of what is. In this we become trapped. Chasing little moments of pleasure always trying escape the pain. Some remain in this state of suffering until death. Wishing until the very end for the dreams they once knew.

The process of reclaiming yourself is when you confront all the bad you’ve experienced. No longer running away, you incorporate it into the new life you’ll make going forwards. Lessons learned you accept your hardship for all it’s taught you. You’ve let go of it’s command over you and now you command it.

You realize you don’t need to go back. That happy self you knew has been here all along. Even better now that you found it after knowing it’s loss. All you had to do was stop following your dreams, and start leading them. What you’ve always needed was never found anywhere but yourself.

Stillwaiting · M

I've gotten most right, but a couple of those wrong ones were doozies

Reject · 26-30, M

@Stillwaiting I think one of the hardest things we go through is realizing when we made a choice that was wrong for ourselves. These always come from something the world convinced us of.

OogieBoogie · F

@Reject the last sentence here .

Man , that one hurt .

Been there , living a delusuon of idealality that never existed.

Its a tough slap to the soul when you see your dreams shattered..

...And realise many humans are asssholes 😂

Justenjoyit · 61-69, M

The biggest decision I made was in my late 20s I made it my daily thing to always be fair to others and fair to myself even if its not in my advantage, I run my life on that so when I make a decisions I base everything on being fair.

Reject · 26-30, M

@Justenjoyit That is something you can do for others and for yourself because no matter how unfair the world is, you don’t have to be.

Wiseacre · F

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NestChicken · 31-35, M

@Reject it’s difficult to understand unless you have been in that situation

Reject · 26-30, M

@NestChicken No one will ever completely understand you. So it’s more than difficult, it’s impossible. Even if I was in their situation. I’m not them. I handle things differently, I know different experiences. Even if grew up in their shoes. I have different genetics, and different tendencies with my personality. The closest someone will get to understanding is when they can see your reasoning, but they will never live it.

OogieBoogie · F

@NestChicken ive been here .
I remember , it was Everyday : "just keep breathing". Dammit, (memories br8ng tears 🤷‍♀️).
[Cant see.my text.pad prooperly now😅].
That's a HARD low man !
Kudos for surviving it ....so far .

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