A lot of you have been very helpful lately 🖤

Even just the hearts & hugs mean a lot 🙏 so thank you.

There's a lot I'm trying to realize & figure out. A lot of it is really hard to face. Sometimes you don't want to & you fight it but at the end of the day that only keeps you hurting for longer.

There is no victim or villain here. It's just life & it doesn't go how we want sometimes. But I think when things go south, my heart doesn't wanna let go & I try too hard to hold on.
I don't want the memories to be just memories.. I don't want the dreams to be just dreams.
But they're all still beautiful even if that's all they ever get to be.

I hate how bad things have gotten. I never wanted to be this hurt & I never wanted to hurt anyone else 💔
I didn't express my feelings here for people to feel sorry for me either... I just needed the help. So thanks again 🙏 I don't want this sad stuff to take over my account anymore so I'm trying, I promise.

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Reject · 31-35, M

All you need to do is try. That’s more than enough and more than most people do. I never could let go, so I didn’t. That’s something I never figured out.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Reject it's hard to let go man. Sometimes you feel like you can do it then other times you don't know how. I think for certain people, we're stuck always wishing things were different but we just have to carry on anyway.
After a certain point it only hurts to hope.

Reject · 31-35, M

@ChiefJustWalks That’s how it is for me. Since I can’t move on, I use the love I have to try being a better person. That’s what they would want.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Reject oftentimes after a breakup, I strive to be the person they would've wanted even if they don't get to see it. Maybe part of that is because I want to somehow prove to myself that it could've worked.

You're a good person though dude. Whether it's for you or anyone else you're always a good dude when I see you around

Reject · 31-35, M

@ChiefJustWalks I do the same. For me it’s a matter of honoring my love for them. I figure my love wouldn’t mean much if I just stopped caring because they were gone.

Part of the reason I’m any sort of decent now is because I was in your place about 5 years ago, where a girl I love more than anything decided to leave me. A lot of what I do now is with her in mind. Being the best I can be because she’d want that. There’s also no where else for my love to go than her memory.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Reject i think for me, it's not the best thing to think that way. Striving to be the person that they would've wanted.. it keeps me from striving to be the person that I would've wanted myself. Even if they're both similar anyway. & Idk who I want to be but I know that wishing I was the right person for someone else is a sad road that never takes me anywhere.
Even if I don't expect anything out of it, I can't allow myself to think "this is out of love for her". You gotta think about the love for yourself, & do it for that. The hard part is finding love for ourself.
I struggle with that & I can't be the only one there.

Reject · 31-35, M

@ChiefJustWalks Fair enough. That makes sense. For someone like me, putting someone else first is putting myself first because that’s what I truly want. It’s how I love myself. It’s good you know what you’re like and how it’s different, but concerning that you’re not even sure of what that is.