On a serious note...

Should I put myself back out there? Part of me is wishing for a genuine connection. But the rest of me, since the major incidents that've happened, I am comfortable in solitude. Idk if I'm better off alone because I'm just so use to it and I'm also just fiercely independent. Although, I feel like clinging to isolation is just symptom of said events (in previous posts) that perhaps I'm not doing myself any favors. Looking at it from a different perspective, I should push myself past the anxiety and trauma, but on the other am I just too damaged to even bother? Idk. I ask because I had dreamt recently I was hanging out with a random SO, and felt loved but woke with an understanding it's another goodbye to a life I'm not capable of having. Otherwise, I just suppress the thought and remain occupied to the passion of my work.

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whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

So the real question is,"Do you need this in your life right now?" Whats the answer??😷

RedGrizzly · 26-30, F

@whowasthatmaskedman tbh with you, I don't need it at all for the rest of my existence lol I'm content alone. But that also works in my favor because it takes the pressure off the whole thing and someone else, you know? There's no rush into anything. I'm just unsure if maybe I'm going to miss out on something wonderful because I cling to solitude and am too comfortable there.

whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M

@RedGrizzly Then my advice would be to get on with living the life you want, without the need to compromise or make space in it for someone else. But that does remind me of an old, but true joke. If you are ever stranded on a desert island, alone and desperate for company, just sit down, take out a pack of cards and start playing solitaire. Within ten minutes, someone will tap you on the shoulder, saying. "The black ten goes on the red jack".. The moral being that when you are busy doing something else, others find you interesting.. And isnt that what we really all want?😷

RedGrizzly · 26-30, F

@whowasthatmaskedman hahaha that's very true! It's always when you're not looking or desperate for it that it can just happen naturally.