What causes a person to develop a bad temper? [I Hated My Childhood]

My mother had a terrible temper, easily triggered by almost any little thing. I walked on eggs in her presence. You could never really tell what might set her off. She once threw a chair across a restaurant because she mistakenly believed the waitress had brought salad dressing (on a lazy Susan) when she hadn't ordered it. During their marriage (which ended in divorce) she beat up my dad and sent him to an Emergency hospital three times.

How do people get that way? Have you ever known anyone like my mother?

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

My father was that way. I don’t know if he had a genetic predisposition towards psychopathy or if it was because his mother doted on him, he was her first-born son. I think whenever one child is doted on at the expense of the others that it sets them up for severe personality disorders that last a lifetime.

CestManan · 46-50, F

@cherokeepatti I asked somebody else this but did your dad live into his 90s? It's always the biggest assholes on the planet that live the longest it seems.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@CestManan Born in 1916, died in 2004. He outlived all his siblings.

CestManan · 46-50, F

@cherokeepatti see that is what I'm talkin about, evil old bastard's live long miserable lives. Why is that?

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@CestManan He was still doing violent things when he was in his 70s

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@CestManan No. He died at 80.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

@cherokeepatti My mother grew up favored strongly over her sibling, a half sister. Maybe that was a factor.

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@greenmountaingal yes I believe that it gives the doted on child a false sense of power and results in narcissism. The family dynamic is very important