Alone but happy

I had a client who always booked my session. In the past she seemed tired and not really lively. Perhaps because her husband was bed ridden but didn't want to elaborate more on the reason. I gathered it's taking a toll on her. They lived alone together without any help.

Four sessions in three months, I took a note on the timber of her voice, so I decided to steer clear from any family topic.

On our fifth session, just yesterday, she was perky and sounded happy. Then she blurted out that her husband died a day after our last session. She suddenly was open to talk about him revealing the reason, finally, on why he was bedridden.

She married young at twenty, no children after three miscarriages but she's happy in the marriage and she loved him very much, describing that he's generous, nice and kind. They had a full life together, traveling to different countries until he became bed ridden 6 months prior to his death.

Fifty-two years in the marriage...I was wondering how a love can survive like that?
Impressive!

She said she's alone but happy because she has their memories together.

Till death do us part. I envy her.
I wouldn't have that, ever. Mine only lasted for 3 years, 13 years ago.

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CassandraSissy · 26-30, TVIP

Lovely story and, I guess, the stress of looking after the one that she loved and seeing him waste away did take it's tole. Release of stress, knowing that he was at peace and on his spiritual journey. Grief because of what had happened but surrounded by good memories.

My folks have been together throughout their teenage years, marrying at 19, and they're a team, they complement each other's strengths and weaknesses, have fun and try not to take things to heart. They've always given what you'd call Unconditional Positive Regard to me and my life choices (can be difficult, so I hear, being trans...but it was quite easy for me) and they welcome my fiancé as their son-in-law.

I couldn't ask for better parents.

They helped set the groundwork for who and what I represent.

☺️

Montanaman · M

@CassandraSissy Thats such a blessing that you're parents have that relationship with each other and also with you. That's good parenting. 🤗🥰

SW-User

@CassandraSissy thank you for sharing. You seem well-grounded and your parents let you flourish on your own free will.

CassandraSissy · 26-30, TVIP

@Montanaman @SW-User Thank you for your lovely comments. However, as we know every negative can have a good thing - a silver lining, so to speak - so can the opposite, sadly...

With being so free and easy regarding my gender within my family I wasn't quite ready for just how harsh and biting society can get about these things. Quite stressful at times...and there were plenty of tears.....but, yes, that positive encouragement from my folks, through all that crap, helped me turn that corner.

😘

...and, hopefully, I try to bring that to my relationship too.

SW-User

@CassandraSissy Very well said. People could be harsh or judgmental, but it boils down to the realization that we're all humans feeling the same level of emotions like love, resentment, etc....if everyone could only see the person inside with the same feeling as everybody else, not the individuality, gender or appearance, perhaps the world is a better place for everybody.

You're lucky to have supportive parents!