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Alone but happy

I had a client who always booked my session. In the past she seemed tired and not really lively. Perhaps because her husband was bed ridden but didn't want to elaborate more on the reason. I gathered it's taking a toll on her. They lived alone together without any help.

Four sessions in three months, I took a note on the timber of her voice, so I decided to steer clear from any family topic.

On our fifth session, just yesterday, she was perky and sounded happy. Then she blurted out that her husband died a day after our last session. She suddenly was open to talk about him revealing the reason, finally, on why he was bedridden.

She married young at twenty, no children after three miscarriages but she's happy in the marriage and she loved him very much, describing that he's generous, nice and kind. They had a full life together, traveling to different countries until he became bed ridden 6 months prior to his death.

Fifty-two years in the marriage...I was wondering how a love can survive like that?
Impressive!

She said she's alone but happy because she has their memories together.

Till death do us part. I envy her.
I wouldn't have that, ever. Mine only lasted for 3 years, 13 years ago.
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
Lovely story and, I guess, the stress of looking after the one that she loved and seeing him waste away did take it's tole. Release of stress, knowing that he was at peace and on his spiritual journey. Grief because of what had happened but surrounded by good memories.

My folks have been together throughout their teenage years, marrying at 19, and they're a team, they complement each other's strengths and weaknesses, have fun and try not to take things to heart. They've always given what you'd call Unconditional Positive Regard to me and my life choices (can be difficult, so I hear, being trans...but it was quite easy for me) and they welcome my fiancé as their son-in-law.

I couldn't ask for better parents.

They helped set the groundwork for who and what I represent.

☺️
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@CassandraSissy thank you for sharing. You seem well-grounded and your parents let you flourish on your own free will.
CassandraSissy · 26-30, T
@Montanaman @SW-User Thank you for your lovely comments. However, as we know every negative can have a good thing - a silver lining, so to speak - so can the opposite, sadly...

With being so free and easy regarding my gender within my family I wasn't quite ready for just how harsh and biting society can get about these things. Quite stressful at times...and there were plenty of tears.....but, yes, that positive encouragement from my folks, through all that crap, helped me turn that corner.

😘

...and, hopefully, I try to bring that to my relationship too.
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@CassandraSissy Very well said. People could be harsh or judgmental, but it boils down to the realization that we're all humans feeling the same level of emotions like love, resentment, etc....if everyone could only see the person inside with the same feeling as everybody else, not the individuality, gender or appearance, perhaps the world is a better place for everybody.

You're lucky to have supportive parents!
Montanaman · M
Her's is atypical, Rare. But my parent's lasted 60 something years before one, then the other passed. Same for my wife's parents.
Mine's 34 years going on 60...🤗❤️🥰💞
It might be how they were raised. Their environment, the vows meant something then, as they mean something now, but its hard work, making a marriage last a lifetime.
Its worth every moment.
Montanaman · M
@SW-User yes ☺️
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@Montanaman She looks like Italian. 😊
Montanaman · M
@SW-User Shed love that ❤️Shes from German and native American decent 🤗
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
I know.... Numbers don't mean anything. She had something rare - the "happy" part.
My parents have been married for 30 years now....but just because divorce isn't an option in this economy. My mother can barely stand my father. He hurt her and made her cry so many times. He said the most horrible things. Treated her like she was dust on his shoe. My mama has no clothes to wear but torn shirts. She's mentally ill and her grief of having to stay in this marriage has pushed her towards psychosis...... Yeah. Numbers don't mean a thing.
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@assemblingaknob I'm very sorry to hear that.
Ontheroad · M
Hmmmm... never have that? Don't be so pessimistic, you are still young enough to have exactly that. A great love isn't defined by its length, but by how deeply two love one another.
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@Ontheroad I was hoping when I was in my late thirties until in my forty's but now that I'm 51, I think it's just a wishful thinking but thank you for saying the positive thought.
Mine was 18 but only 10 was good
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@nevergiveup marriage is complicated...we never knew until we're there. ...vast differences.
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@nevergiveup sorry to hear that. It's better to be without someone who can just inflict pain.

 
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