Do you second guess yourself?

In jobs or at work , minor decisions, big decisions, in relationships, with a purchase etc ..?

Or do you listen to your own mind clearly and not concern over if you make a mistake or, make the wrong decision etc?

Ontheroad · M

Living = mistakes. That is the way life works, or that is how I approach it.

Regardless of what decision I make I'm at best 80% or so sure it's the right decision. Sometimes I think I'm spot-on.

Yeah, nope, only in rare occasions does that happen.

So I go with knowing I'm at least 80% right going in and have the confidence that I can adjust as I go and get through whatever that remaining 20% hits me with.

My bottom line is that if it didn't kill me, I'll survive.

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@Ontheroad Thanks, I have a lot of issues with self doubt. Lived under a narcissist bully for the first two decades of life and they eroded ME..and my self trust. If only I knew THEN that you can never ever please or be right, for a narcissist.

That they'll ridicule EVERY single thing one says or does, I wouldn't have crippling PTSD as an adult. It was a hell, being screamed at if you put a CUP Down "wrong"..
You're right living itself is going to yield mistakes even as grown ups! It's just an aspect of daily life .

My mind catastrophized my mistakes, and it really made me feel inhuman. 🙁 I truly want to heal this, so I appreciate your reflective ideas🦋

TheHammer · M

I think about it for a minute. Then decide and never look back. I'm not saying I still don't second guess myself, but I say screw it.