Surprisingly, I generally avoid large crowds of congregating people...
I (reluctantly) went to a restaurant with some co-workers after work and it was packed. I immediately knew this was going to be trouble and thought of ways to back out, but no idea was really workable. Unfortunately, the way we assembled around the table, I was "wedged" in-between 2 people and directly facing the (flat-chested) girl who acts like a know-it-all about everything and recently called me out for being on my phone while she was going through her "progress report" at our staff meeting that she was leading.
As everyone was having individualized conversations, she (the flat-chested girl) looked straight at me and out of nowhere started quizzing me about what I was working on. I told her I didn't really want to talk about it and she started yelling at me that I have no "self-awareness" and then asked me why I was so "anti-social." I politely asked her why I was getting yelled at and she insisted she wasn't yelling at me... "this is what adults call having a conversation." Well, maybe she wasn't actually yelling, but if she wasn't, it seemed like she was. Anyway, that's not really the point; she just seemed to have a lot of pent-up anger directed at me.
Some people have told me she has a crush on me. But, I don't think so. Maybe I will talk to her, 1-on-1 to find out what her deal is. But, I don't know if I want to get that involved. I don't really know what to do. It was an okay time at the restaurant and 2 people said they were glad I came out with the group... which seemed like a little bit like an insult disguised as a compliment, but they "seemed" sincere, so I don't know... I don't always pick up on social cues that well. Everyone was talking about people in the office in a joking kind of way and giving everyone nicknames, but I didn't really participate in that part of the conversation and when they came to me, I just smiled and didn't say anything. I don't really want to talk about that, but it wasn't like there was anything mean-spirited about it.
I guess I'm glad I went because I'm definitely not anti-social.
As everyone was having individualized conversations, she (the flat-chested girl) looked straight at me and out of nowhere started quizzing me about what I was working on. I told her I didn't really want to talk about it and she started yelling at me that I have no "self-awareness" and then asked me why I was so "anti-social." I politely asked her why I was getting yelled at and she insisted she wasn't yelling at me... "this is what adults call having a conversation." Well, maybe she wasn't actually yelling, but if she wasn't, it seemed like she was. Anyway, that's not really the point; she just seemed to have a lot of pent-up anger directed at me.
Some people have told me she has a crush on me. But, I don't think so. Maybe I will talk to her, 1-on-1 to find out what her deal is. But, I don't know if I want to get that involved. I don't really know what to do. It was an okay time at the restaurant and 2 people said they were glad I came out with the group... which seemed like a little bit like an insult disguised as a compliment, but they "seemed" sincere, so I don't know... I don't always pick up on social cues that well. Everyone was talking about people in the office in a joking kind of way and giving everyone nicknames, but I didn't really participate in that part of the conversation and when they came to me, I just smiled and didn't say anything. I don't really want to talk about that, but it wasn't like there was anything mean-spirited about it.
I guess I'm glad I went because I'm definitely not anti-social.
26-30, M
