Surprisingly, I generally avoid large crowds of congregating people...

I (reluctantly) went to a restaurant with some co-workers after work and it was packed. I immediately knew this was going to be trouble and thought of ways to back out, but no idea was really workable. Unfortunately, the way we assembled around the table, I was "wedged" in-between 2 people and directly facing the (flat-chested) girl who acts like a know-it-all about everything and recently called me out for being on my phone while she was going through her "progress report" at our staff meeting that she was leading.

As everyone was having individualized conversations, she (the flat-chested girl) looked straight at me and out of nowhere started quizzing me about what I was working on. I told her I didn't really want to talk about it and she started yelling at me that I have no "self-awareness" and then asked me why I was so "anti-social." I politely asked her why I was getting yelled at and she insisted she wasn't yelling at me... "this is what adults call having a conversation." Well, maybe she wasn't actually yelling, but if she wasn't, it seemed like she was. Anyway, that's not really the point; she just seemed to have a lot of pent-up anger directed at me.

Some people have told me she has a crush on me. But, I don't think so. Maybe I will talk to her, 1-on-1 to find out what her deal is. But, I don't know if I want to get that involved. I don't really know what to do. It was an okay time at the restaurant and 2 people said they were glad I came out with the group... which seemed like a little bit like an insult disguised as a compliment, but they "seemed" sincere, so I don't know... I don't always pick up on social cues that well. Everyone was talking about people in the office in a joking kind of way and giving everyone nicknames, but I didn't really participate in that part of the conversation and when they came to me, I just smiled and didn't say anything. I don't really want to talk about that, but it wasn't like there was anything mean-spirited about it.

I guess I'm glad I went because I'm definitely not anti-social.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

AI generated conversion.

I understand now that you're looking for behavioral traits or tendencies associated with individuals who may be considered antisocial in a more general sense, rather than the clinical definition of antisocial personality disorder. Here are some real-world traits that might be observed:

Avoiding Crowds: A tendency to steer clear of large gatherings or social events, preferring solitude or small groups.

Preference for Solitude: Enjoying time alone and finding social interactions draining or overwhelming.

Limited Social Interaction: Engaging infrequently with others, often choosing to communicate through digital means rather than face-to-face.

Discomfort in Social Situations: Feeling anxious or uncomfortable in social settings, leading to avoidance of such situations.

Introversion: Exhibiting introverted traits, such as being reserved, reflective, and more focused on internal thoughts than external social interactions.

Selective Friendships: Maintaining a small circle of close friends rather than a wide social network.

Cynicism or Distrust: Having a skeptical view of others' intentions, which can lead to withdrawal from social interactions.

Preference for Routine: Enjoying predictable environments and routines, which can contribute to avoiding new social experiences.

Shouldn't reluctance on picking up on social clues be another trait? .

GPT-4o mini

Yes, absolutely! Reluctance or difficulty in picking up on social cues is indeed another trait that can be associated with individuals who may be considered antisocial or who struggle with social interactions. This can manifest in several ways:

Misreading Social Signals: Difficulty interpreting body language, facial expressions, or tone of voice, which can lead to misunderstandings in social situations.

Inappropriate Responses: Responding in ways that may seem out of place or inappropriate for the social context, due to a lack of awareness of social norms.

Struggling with Empathy: Finding it challenging to understand or relate to the feelings and perspectives of others, which can hinder social interactions.

Difficulty in Conversations: Struggling to engage in back-and-forth dialogue, leading to awkward pauses or one-sided conversations.

Social Anxiety: Feeling anxious about social interactions, which can further impair the ability to pick up on social cues.

These traits can contribute to a sense of social disconnection and may lead individuals to avoid social situations altogether. Thank you for pointing that out!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer That doesn't apply to me.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul deny, deny deny!

Which BTW is apart of the clinical definition.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Dude... I'm not in denial. No one put a gun to my head. I congregated with the people willingly, fully aware of the risks from every angle and in ever corner. I hate when people try to put a label on me. I'm not anti-social. That's pretty obvious.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul reread the above. It doesn't say always!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer That's just generic BS. It's not about me. I'm all about social interactions.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul The denial within strong is. 🙃

I generally avoid large crowds of congregating people...

Surprising, not!

Avoiding Crowds: A tendency to steer clear of large gatherings or social events, preferring solitude or small groups

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Well, you're twisting things up.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul over this year only you have displayed each of the highlighted areas in my original comment. Including your statement, on this post, which is highlighted last!

.. I don't always pick up on social cues that well.

I forgot about the title!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Well, I'm not sure that is an indication of what you think it is.

TryingtoLava

@DeWayfarer we didnt even address him referring to a woman as the flat chested girl

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@TryingtoLava Different issue there I believe.

Someone post an interesting video about projection. Here it is.

[media=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2yXG1nE4Ds]

I won't say who posted it for other reasons.