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I was forcibly blocked from accessing my locker by 2 dudes obnoxiously chatting away right in front of my locker at the gym...

After working out at the gym yesterday there were 2 guys talking to each other, with my locker in-between both of them. They were chatting it up as though their conversation was the most important event of the day. I didn't want to get dragged into their conversation, so I went back into the gym and walked around. I came back into the locker room and there they were still talking with one sitting on the bench and the other pacing back and forth as he was speaking with overly animated hand movements. It was a full 15 minutes until they finally left and I was able to access my locker to leave.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

The etiquette is to say: "Excuse me please, may I access my locker"?

That is being socially polite.

The anti social thing IS to not say anything at all!

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Well, I didn't do either. I just sat it out until they left to avoid getting dragged into their conversation or getting inundated with their questions.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul

I just sat it out ...

That is the same thing as not saying anything!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer No. Not saying anything would be just pushing my way in-between them without literally saying anything. I wasn't in the mood for non-stop questions or getting dragged into their conversation. Besides, my point is they shouldn't have been blocking a locker. They should have chatted in an open area.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul no the point is for you to speak politely!

That is being socially polite!

Not to ignore. Nor be rude!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer I am socially polite. Otherwise, I would have just told them to get out of my way.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul ignoring is not being socially polite.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer You don't understand. I showed restraint despite being blocked from my locker. For the 3rd time, I didn't want to be inundated with their questions or literally pulled into the conversation. So... I showed restraint... even up to 15 minutes of them wasting my time.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul no you have no restraint at all. Because both your solutions are to be rude!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer I was pragmatic and did what most people wish they had the discipline to do.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul it takes no discipline at all to be a fly on the wall!

It takes discipline to talk politely!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Well, I'm not anti-social.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul then learn the meaning of discipline. The military is a good place to learn it!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer I already know about discipline and practise it every day. You would do well to try it out yourself.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul Guy if I would have ignored people like you do, I would have been court marshalled by my CO!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Stop over-exaggerating. It's childish.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul I'm not because being mildly antisocial was got me out of the Air Force.

At least I lived with others for a whole year!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Well, I could probably do that.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul but I admitted to being antisocial even over 40 years ago.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer Yeah, I'm definitely not anti-social. I'm basically a people-person.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul the more you deny it, the more you are confirming it!

That's how being antisocial works.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer I'm just setting the record straight. I am and never have been anti-social. I have no idea where you got the stray idea that I might be.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul that is how being anti social works in the extremes.

The more you deny it the more you are confirming it.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@MarkPaul guy, it's like being an alcoholic! Exactly it!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@DeWayfarer You are obviously confused. There is nothing in my behaviour or attitude that suggests I am anti-social. We call that setting the record straight and denying a false claim.

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