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Does anyone specify their pronouns in email?

Just had an email from a person with first name Alison. Underneath it said pronouns she/her. No shit - you're a woman. I deduced that from your first name but I don't actually care what gender or whatever you claim to be we're just doing business. Don't know whether the pronoun bit is the organisation policy or something she chooses to add.

Had to answer professionally but was so tempted to say if you want to bring pronouns in to the equation wouldn't it be way cooler to be them/they

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

I do have them next to my name. They are not manually addded by me in the email signature, but are added by IT for everyone next to the name and email address, based on the info provided when we joined. Some people opt not to provide them though, I did. Many people don't recognize that my name is that of a female!

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@sladejr i actually quite like my workplace. Very good corporate culture.

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@sladejr I don't think I care that much really. But now I realised they aren't mandatory, because some people don't have them. Majority do though. It must be me who opted to provide them.

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@sladejr I think you need to calm down a little 🥔😉

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@sladejr Then don't lol

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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@sladejr That's good, so people who would like to have the option to provide their pronouns, don't be forced working for someone like you 😁

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

@BittersweetPotato Crikey, that seems a bit of a presumption from the HR department 😐

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@SunshineGirl presumption about what?

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

@BittersweetPotato Speaking personally, I don't feel my gender is a particularly relevant part of my professional identity. So I don't want an HR colleague, who has probably never seen or spoken to me, to make a decision about the way I project myself in public.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@SunshineGirl But they are not making a decision on your behalf, they give you the option to provide your pronouns. You can opt not to provide them 🤷🏾‍♀️ other people may want to provide them, that's why the option exist.

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

@BittersweetPotato OK, so if you don't provide them they won't fill them in regardless? I misread that part.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@SunshineGirl how will they fill them on what basis 🤷🏾‍♀️

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

@BittersweetPotato By making assumptions. As you said in your opening message, many people do not realise that your name is female.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@SunshineGirl No idea what you are talking about. Someone mistaking my name for a male name because my name is not a typical western name is something, and HR filling out YOUR personal information on your behalf without your consent is something COMPLETELY different!! It opens the organization to legal exposure. I don't think you will ever find any company filling out personal info like gender on behalf of employees based on assumptions, unless they are completely dumb. Such info need to be provided by you and only you, and after you provide it you also attest to accuracy and to giving the company the right to use or share it

SunshineGirl · 36-40, F

@BittersweetPotato Excuse me for my error. I am only human.

BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F

@SunshineGirl I understand. Humans are limited. I am a potato 🥔.