Why is it so hard to have friends who don't just abandon you the minute you have a rough time?

There have been many times when I have looked around me and thought, wow, I have a really good support network....but it's not real. People are all talk it seems.

Maybe I just don't know what people want 🤷‍♀️ Just the good bits, it seems.

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stratosranger · M

If it’s a constant need? Yeah. People tend to wander. If you hit a rough patch every couple of months and need someone to talk to and you get ghosted? Again, yeah. Those are fair weather friends and not to be taken seriously. Return the “favor” when you can. 😏

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@stratosranger I don't often ask for help. That's why it bothers me.

stratosranger · M

@KuroNeko Many folks unfortunately are just there for the good times. They have little depth or character and are just empty vessels behind a vapid smile. At least you know who is who and should take mental note to remember that.

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@stratosranger its difficult to tell. I would never think of having a friendship with someone like you described, but in reality people surprise you after behaving the opposite way in their words.

stratosranger · M

There is a lesson there. What means more? A person’s words? Or their actions? @KuroNeko

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@stratosranger people can behave a certain way for a while and then change. I see that you are trying to have a little teaching moment here lol but life and people aren't always that simple.

stratosranger · M

Correct. I don’t believe in absolutes either. Life is much more fluid than that. But if a person never backs up their words with actions, what are those words worth? Sometimes you do have to draw a line. If you don’t you’ll find yourself back in the same situation over and over again. @KuroNeko

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@stratosranger it's easy to detect if they never do, bit harder if they start out doing it but stop later.