Why is it so hard to have friends who don't just abandon you the minute you have a rough time?

There have been many times when I have looked around me and thought, wow, I have a really good support network....but it's not real. People are all talk it seems.

Maybe I just don't know what people want 🤷‍♀️ Just the good bits, it seems.

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Keepitsimple · 56-60, F

I just had to unload a friend here. It’s never ending. Everyday there is a crisis or he’s drunk. It gets old and puts me in a pissy mood. I’m not here for that.

ExtremeNext · 36-40

@Keepitsimple lol

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Keepitsimple I can understand that. Sometimes people can't be helped.

Keepitsimple · 56-60, F

@KuroNeko it’s not about needing help. It’s a way of life for them and I’m not interested.

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Keepitsimple yeah, sounds like my dad, he died last year "not needing help".

Keepitsimple · 56-60, F

I’m sorry you had to deal with that with your father. That’s like throwing a match on my patience level. At this age I can’t bothered. I’m not interesting in saving anybody and being their whipping bag.@KuroNeko

SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

@KuroNeko I'm sorry to hear about your dad...

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Keepitsimple I've just realized after much effort over the years that people can only save themselves, and some have no intention of doing so at all.

Keepitsimple · 56-60, F

@KuroNeko For some people it’s normal to them due to the atmosphere they grew up in. They don’t see anything wrong.

KuroNeko · 41-45, F

@Keepitsimple Luckily that environment didn't seem to rub off on me.