Why is it so hard to have friends who don't just abandon you the minute you have a rough time?

I am not saying you do this but I think what happens in general is when people are in trouble, they are more likely to ask for help OR they want to unload their emotional baggage on others.

Some "Friends" may want to help but most people are struggling with their own problems and do not have the resources to help others with their problems.

What people want - When people want ANYthing, be it a friend, lover, career, a season, you name it, they want the ideal version but none of the "challenges" or possible work.