Why is it so hard to have friends who don't just abandon you the minute you have a rough time?

@SW-User It's hard to tell the difference when they say they will be there and they REEEAAAAALLLYYY do mean that!

I agree, animals will never let you down.

@KuroNeko only time tells you if they're good listeners and caring but even then it's a bad idea to just try to rely on one, because that's when one would become a pressure and I hate that feeling.
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Some can only support you for some time.
Something unconditional.... Seems impossible with people.

@SW-User I try not to keep my eggs in one basket...but I am starting to think that I am just not cut out for this female friends thing.

@SW-User I have also noticed that more often than not, I am pushed aside because I don't want to put my troubles on another. I recently politely declined help from a "friend" and was cut off after that. You really can't win with some people.

@KuroNeko no... It's very complex... It gets messy at any point. And dealing with it its hard sometimes

@KuroNeko
What happened there?

Anyways, about female friends, I read somewhere that women handle friendship carefully like fine crystal yet it still seems to break but men kick around their friendships like a football yet it doesn't break.

@HoeBag I was incapacitated for a couple of weeks and they offered to come up and take care of me. I had help from family members and tbh I didn't want them to see me in such a state. I got so bad that I couldn't even hold my phone, I just slept for 2 weeks. I contacted them when I was finally able, and never heard from them again. Saw them around here...but it was like I didn't exist.

@KuroNeko Hmm, that is a tough one. Like damned if you do, damned if you don't.

What may have happened is a little hard to explain but here it goes -
I read somewhere that when a woman cries to you, it doesn't mean she is whining, it means she trusts you.

This friend may have wanted to help but maybe thought, "Oh I guess Kuro doesn't trust me enough to have around when she is struggling."
I understand that you didn't want your friend to see you at your worst, maybe he or she didn't take it that way.

I know I have felt that way about people in my life. Like things are cool during the good times but then during their struggles their attitude is like "Go away Leggs, this doesn't concern you".

Once again I am not saying that is how you felt but they may have taken it as such.

@HoeBag tbh I was in way too much pain to try and navigate someone else's feelings at the time. She had also talked about visiting many times and never actually doing it, so idk

@KuroNeko I understand that. But yeah when people talk about visiting a lot but then cancel, flake out, whatever, it is kind of hard to take them serious.

So yeah, you were totally in the right for figuring they may not be around when you needed help the most.